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Marriage Requires Faith

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Marriage Requires Faith

There are many single people who are vehemently against marriage. They do want to have happy and fulfilled relationships but do not want to commit out of fear that their relationship won’t work out.  Statistics prove that this is a reasonable assumption.

It does take a large leap of faith to commit yourself to marriage.  You must have a great deal of self-confidence as well as trust in your partner

How to Build Faith

A woman whose marriage had dissolved wanted to marry again, but she was reluctant to follow her heart out of fear that it wouldn’t work out.   Her partner was emotionally available and wasn’t really interested in marriage.   By staying in a relationship with him, she was settling for less than her heart’s desire.  This woman didn’t discard her want for marriage, but she did do some ground work on what it takes to make a solid, fulfilling marriage.

Having a Fulfilled Marriage

She started listening to experts on relationships and learned that couples should stay committed to courting each other by going on dates and even little getaways. She learned how to talk to a partner constructively and positively and how to resolve conflicts as they arise.

Listening to Marital Advice

She made friends with people who are in successful marriages and heeded their advice about successful partnerships.  She learned to pursue her interests and do things that she enjoyed. She learned that she could make platonic friendships with men who had similar view points as she and that she didn’t have to settle for less than what she wanted.

Understanding Your Dating Pattern

Once she recognized that she was in a pattern of pursuing unavailable men, she sought help from a therapist who helped her see that she was pushing away potential husbands out of fear of failure.  After she recognized this, she was still unsure, so she set out to seek spiritual advice.  She learned that there was no such thing as 100% success when it comes to marriage. She learned that she could possibly achieve 97% and to work on that goal.

She built a foundation for a good, solid marriage by changing her perception, knowing herself and not expecting complete success.  This helped her gain faith in herself and in marriage.

Getting Married

When you want to get married, you have to understand that relationships are a lot of work. It takes time, communication, and willpower to be in good relationships. Good relationships always take some kind of work and if you are willing to work hard and to open up your heart, you can find someone that will make a good marriage partner.

Even though marriages do not always work out, do your best to be in relationships that are full of faith and love and you will eventually find the perfect partner for yourself.

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Protect Your Relationships from Loved Ones

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Relationships from Loved Ones

Your relationship with your family and close friends are important, as well as your relationship with your partner. There are things that your family can give you, but your partner can’t and vice versa. The reality is this, your friends and family at times cross the line between you and your partner. It happens because YOU allow them to. Are you feeling stressed out by meddlesome friends and family? Here are four ways to protect your romantic relationship.

Set Boundaries 

Certain topics should be off limits, like how many times you have sex in a week, or how much your new partner makes at their job. Whatever questions or discussions make you or your partner uncomfortable are off the table, so be sure to stop any friends or loved ones—the first time they ask—who are being too curious. If you don’t stop them, you risk bad feelings and resentment down the road, and you don’t want your partner to have negative feelings towards you, your friends, or your loved ones.

Don’t Share Everything
It’s really easy to turn to friends and family when your partner’s choices and faults have got you stressed. But what happens once you’ve unburdened yourself? You feel better, forgive your partner, and ultimately forget that you were frustrated.

The thing is, your friends and family don’t feel better, don’t forgive, and don’t forget. You’ve just dumped a lot of drama in their laps and what you’ve said will definitely impact how they view your significant other going forward. How about keeping your fears, concerns and frustrations between you and your partner instead.

Simply Say No
If you are the type of person who has a hard time saying no, you will feel torn between your family, friends and your significant other. Learn balance. If you love your family, spend time with them—but not to the point that you neglect your significant other. And spend time with your significant other—but not to the point that you neglect your family. If one side is too demanding of your time, learn to say no.

Learn to Live Without Consent
You are an adult, and you can make your own decisions. If you love your partner, if they make you feel happy and fulfilled, then it shouldn’t matter what your friends or family think. Learn to live without their approval—if they refuse to give it to you. Learn to trust your instincts. If you know you’re with the right person, that’s all that should matter.

Your Loved Ones are Important

Your family and friends are important to you, and that’s why they can have so much influence over you. In fact, they have so much influence that they can ruin your romantic relationships—if you let them. But you have the power to make or break your relationships too.

You and only you have the power to protect your partners or throw them to the wolves. Don’t let outside influences ruin a good thing. If you are mature enough to be in a relationship, then you are mature enough to protect it and keep it whole.

Letting Go of Your Ex to Fix Your Karma

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Letting Go of Your Ex

It’s happened.  You’ve met a guy. He might just be the one to get you to stop thinking about your ex.  You have had plenty of time to get over the break up and you feel that you are ready to move on.  Can you move on if you still maintain contact with your ex and maybe even harbor some thoughts of getting back together?

You can’t change what you feel and it’s impossible to disconnect from what your heart wants, especially if you had a special connection with this person. This might keep you from moving on if you hope they can come back into your world.

Karma and Growth

Why do we keep behaving the same way? Why do we keep returning to the same place? Why does this keep happening? This happens because of karma. Karma is the manifestation of lack of growth.

We are on this plane of existence to move past our limitations. It is the goal of our lives to evolve into who we are meant to be as spirits of the highest nature. We can see our lives as both a challenge and an opportunity.  All of our experiences are a gift, a gift to grow through our relationships.

When we met someone to whom we feel connected, that is a karmic mate.  A good relationship will allow both of you to grow together. It is when growth doesn’t happen that the relationship becomes toxic.  This toxicity leads us to leave the relationship.

Moving On

If you leave your relationship with hard feelings of anger and resentment, you leave with bad karma because you haven’t grown. If you don’t get control of your negative feelings, you will set yourself up for a similar relationship. If you don’t learn your lesson the first time, you will repeat it.

You can move past this.

Meditate on this mantra:

  • Bless them for what they brought me.
  • Bless them for what they taught me.

Try saying this mantra each day so that you can prepare your mind, body, and soul for what you are going through. Realize that you have learned a lesson but that it is time to move forward. Realize that you learned your lesson and that you are ready to move past all of the pain and hurt and to start something new.

Once you make peace with this, you can let go of your ex without pain.  Once this has happened, you have released this lesson and your karma will change.  You will be able to move on. Asking yourself what you need to learn from the relationship can help you move on. Once you have acknowledged your growth, you can, indeed, move on.

Creating the Best Online Dating Profile

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Online Dating Profile

Online dating can feel intimidating. The initial setup of your profile can sometimes make you feel pressured to make it perfect. But here’s a secret: there is no such thing as a perfect profile. No matter what you put out there on the Internet, you’ve just got to stay true to yourself. That authenticity will shine through when the right person reads it.

However, I get asked a lot what a “good” profile looks like, so I wanted to supply some tips today that may help you when you’re getting started.

People Really Meet Their Soulmates Online

I’m proud to say I met my husband (my soulmate) on an Internet dating site. It’s been eight years and we’re going strong. I know for a fact that we would have never met otherwise. But this article isn’t about me; it’s about you! I’m going to help you meet the love of your life on the Internet, because they are out there! Check out my tips for creating the best Internet dating site profile.

Depending on the dating site, there are several featured elements to work on, but I’m going to touch on the big ones all the sites share: your pictures, your stats, and your biography.

Your Picture

You should use recent photos of yourself. Before you roll your eyes at me, just know that plenty of people don’t use recent pictures. I once went out with a guy whose profile picture was 15 years old. In it, he posed with a dog. By the time we started talking online that dog had been dead for 10 years!

Don’t use pictures from high school or even ones that are six months old. In fact, take new pictures of yourself for your dating profile. Take head-to-toe pictures of yourself, take headshots, and include pictures of yourself doing some of your favorite activities.

If you’re athletic, include an action shot. If you like animals, include a picture of you with your pet. Don’t use Photoshop to make your pictures more flattering. Don’t add more hair on the top of your head or slim your body down. If you want to meet someone and have a relationship, you need to present who you really are, and that includes what you really look like.

Your Stats

Your stats may include your age, body type, religion, political views, income, and what kind of relationship you’re looking for. Like your picture, you need to be completely honest here too because you’re going to meet someone great and if you want the relationship to last, you can’t lie to them. Don’t answer these questions based on who you’d like to be some day; answer them based on who you are right now. If you’re lying, you’re going to be found out eventually.

In my Internet dating experience, I find most people lie about what they look like, if they’ve been married before, whether they have kids or not and what type of relationship they’re really looking for. Unfortunately, there are a lot of sweet talkers out there who are just looking for a hookup. Don’t get involved in that if that’s not what you truly want.

This section is really important because your potential mates are trying to see if you’d be a good fit for them. Don’t lie in order to get more people interested in you. You’ll end up getting your heart broken!

Your Bio

This is your opportunity to talk about who you are in more detail. Think about your most appealing qualities and give details about them in this section. Talk about your hobbies and why you like them. Tell a potential mate what’s lovable about you.

Don’t be negative. I don’t care how many times you’ve had your heart broken; don’t use your bio to rant and rave about how poorly your last ex treated you. This is your opportunity to move on to someone better! Don’t waste this space being bitter and angry.

Talk about what kind of person you’re looking for. You can talk about looks if you have a particular type but spend more of this space talking about what kind of person your soulmate should be. Do you want to be with someone adventurous? Do you want to be with someone who’s excited to start a family? Think about your ideal mate and describe them here.

Your Dating Mantra

You should keep this mantra in mind as you navigate the waters of Internet dating: “There is someone amazing out there for me.” And there is. I don’t care if you’re 40 pounds heavier than you’d like to be or haven’t completed your college or high school degree—there are people out there who will not only accept you, but they will also love you for who you are, at this exact moment in time. You don’t have to be perfect to deserve or find love. You just have to be ready, positive, open-minded, and honest!

7 Little Things That Will Keep Your Love Alive

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Keep Your Love Alive

In the day-to-day, happiness doesn’t always look like radiating joy all the time. It doesn’t look like giddily texting each other all day or greeting each other with passionate kisses every time you reconnect. Even though that may still happen occasionally, long-term couples tend to measure happiness and healthiness a little bit differently. While each couple is different, what all happy couples have in common are little things that significantly impact their relationship.

Relationships ebb and flow, and there are times where things will be better than others. Likewise, there will be hard times and bumps in the road, but there are things that partners can be sure to do that can add to the overall long-term happiness of their relationship.

Here are some things that every happy couple does:

  1. Fight less, kiss more because partners do fight, even if it’s about silly things. Every time one of you starts arguing, take a moment to kiss each other instead! Fights are overrated, find common ground and skip to the reconciliation part!
  2. Eat a meal together every day

Whether it’s breakfast in bed, a quick sandwich lunch between a workday, or an order-pizza-in dinner, make time to share a meal. By detaching from all the crap that goes on in the world all day long and enjoying food with the one you love most – you create special memories that strengthen your bond.

  1. Text less, speak more

We keep in touch all day long by text. However, no emoji is ever as expressive as the smile in someone’s voice. So, instead of texting endlessly, take a break from your tasks, dial, and talk to your lover for ten minutes.

  1. Go on trips, both big and small!

People plan long vacations – destinations that have been on our bucket list forever. Then, before we know it, we end up delaying trips because of something or the other. Less planning and more action is what we really need. Simply take a day trip on Saturdays, or hop on to a train and see where you end up.

  1. Go out less, hang out more

It’s great to go out with, especially when we’re with friends. But then people sometimes forget to spend any “couple time” together – just the two of you. So stay in somedays, doing nothing in particular except enjoy each other’s company and maybe learn a bit more about your partner.

  1. Find that “you and me” hobby

He likes playing soccer. You like dancing. Both can accompany each other to these things. But everyone needs something special you both love – and love more because you do it with each other. Maybe painting, maybe karate… but it’s high time you discover it – together!

  1. Buy less stuff, make more memories

Couples buy each other presents all the time. Sometimes they’re for birthdays and other milestone occasions. Other times, gifts can be random things for those “just because” moments. But what we ignore sometimes is that a gift is about more than an object – it’s about the act of giving and the love behind it. What we need to be gifting each other are experiences – shared smiles, shared happiness.

Just because you and your partner have been together for a while doesn’t mean the passion has to wane. By taking time out of your day and week to be mindful of your special bond, you can continue to build a love that will last. When you focus on creating those “little” moments of joy and connection, you both can learn something new about each other.  Plus, you can create new avenues to strengthen your communication skills and cultivate special memories that will get you both through even the rockiest of times – together.

18 Signs Your Relationship Will Not Last

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Your Relationship Will Not Last

No one wants to think about a relationship going sour, especially when building a new one. However, when doing the post mortem on your past relationships, it is tempting to overthink every detail of what could have gone wrong.

Here are some common signs that your relationship is most likely to fail: 

1) They disregard your friends.

This is a crystal clear signal your partner is not interested in learning what you like and who you want to be around.

2) They lie for no reason.

People may have a tough line on dishonesty. Should you catch your love in a harmless lie and choose to overlook it, you may discover yourself on the receiving end of betrayal.

3) Rudeness to family members

Everyone has issues with their family, but if you notice your potential mate completely disrespecting their parents, the chances are good that they are incapable of respecting anyone.

4) They insist on knowing where you are all of the time. 

It’s one thing to want to know if someone is safe and well. It’s another thing entirely for someone to demand knowing what you are doing every minute in a day. In an adult relationship, both partners require independence.

5) They have no tolerance for animals 

One of the first signs of emotional problems is an inability to show emotion or tolerance for any animal or pet.

6) The laugh at your goals and ambitions

If you can’t confide your aspirations to your partner, it will be impossible for you to grow together.

7) They don’t want to give your musical tastes a chance. 

Everyone has different ideas of what makes a good song. If your partner won’t even try to listen to what you enjoy, how will you agree on more important things?

8) They don’t have a savings account. 

Most adults have access to financial resources. Your bank account doesn’t need to be in thousands, but a plan should be in place.

9) They don’t like their career but won’t change it.

If your partner hates everything about their job but won’t move on, they cannot invest in your happiness by failing to do anything about theirs.

10) They won’t take risks.

If your partner is predictable to the point of boredom and is unwilling to try new things, you will have a long, tedious road ahead of you.

11) They won’t hold your hand

It may seem like a minor thing, but if your partner doesn’t acknowledge you by simply taking your hand, they may not be ready to show their love in any other way.

12) They make fun of the way you dress

If you are being niggled with “Are you sure you want to wear that?” every time you go out, they clearly don’t trust your taste.

13) They want you to change.

This may be masked as helpful hints and tips, but how will they feel when you get older if they don’t like the way you look today?

14) They cut down your friends. 

If your partner can’t be civil about the people you like, how soon will it be before they turn on you?

15) They are still in close contact with an ex. 

Are you truly comfortable with sharing your romance with someone they claimed to have moved on from?

16) You feel taken advantage of 

You are constantly doing something nice or unexpected for your partner, and it goes unrecognized or appreciated.

17) You feel alone all of the time 

If you feel lonely and unfulfilled, cut this off and find someone who truly loves you.

18) Your eye is wandering. 

If you are flirting or wanting to flirt with someone else, it’s time to reexamine what you want or need.

By recognizing the warning signs as early as possible, you will ensure you never invest time and emotion into a doomed relationship and save that time and energy for a person worthy of your love!

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When a Soulmate Relationship Doesn’t Last

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Soulmate Relationship

Not all relationships involving soulmates have a fairy tale ending.   Just because you are in a relationship with your soulmate doesn’t mean it’s perfect.  No relationship is perfect.

You and your soulmate have a cosmic connection and things flow together seamlessly, but in time your life’s journey with its challenges and lessons may create problems because of your other relationships.  If you and your partner cannot move past the past, it will be too hard to keep moving forward together in the future.

Healthy Relationships

If you have the three c’s- chemistry, compatibility, and communication you can have healthy relationship. Just one block of just one of these components can create a rift in any romance. Your soul connection may be able to recover from this rift, but you have to face that it may not.

Knowing When Things Go Wrong

Not every relationship will be healthy and not every relationship will be good. Learn to take time and sit back and see when things are starting to go sour. Do not expect every relationship to be perfect but when there are more bad times than good times, it might be time to move on.

Moving On

If the partnership with your soulmate dissolves, how can you move on? Take the time to focus on yourself away from the relationship. Don’t let regret and pain hold you back. Let yourself heal alone and perhaps in the future you will be able to mend the rift. If you put yourself in charge of your soul and your own journey, eventually you will see the sense of it.

Finding the Real You

As you learn to heal and move forward from a relationship, find out who you really are. People often get stuck in a relationship and think that they have to be who their partner “created” them to be, and this is not so. You are your own person, be your own person and find out what you like, and you don’t like as a single person.

Some Hope

If you take the steps to protect and heal your soul, your partner may see the problems honestly. They may gain the clarity to work on their own journey which may be just what leads you back together.  Don’t let them go to heal your relationship, let your partner go to heal yourself.  The distance may help your relationship, but you should put yourself first.

You Can Have Soulmates

It is largely unknown that a person can have more than one soulmate.  When people refer to the love of their life, they forget what a journey life can be. You can have more than one great love and you can have more than one soulmate.  If your life isn’t over, you can go on to find another love and find another mate that will help nourish your soul on your life journey.

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9 Worst First Date Mistakes To Avoid

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9 Worst First Date Mistakes To Avoid

Dating can be fun! You get to meet new people and see if they’re a match for you. But the road to love is also filled with bumps and potholes, many of them occurring on the first date!

Check out these nine first date mistakes. Have you made any of them?

 

1. Standing Them Up (Getting Stood Up)

Have you ever had a date with someone, only to have them not show up? Or have you made plans with someone and then changed your mind at the last minute? Unless you can’t get to your phone to cancel your date, you need to show up. Even if you’re not feeling it, you made a promise, and you need to go through with it. If possible, try calling and canceling in advance, but never leave someone hanging because you’re not ready to date, feel insecure, or lack interest.

 

2. Choosing The Wrong Location

When choosing a site for your first date, make sure it’s the kind of location that allows you and your date to get to know each other. Go for dinner, coffee, or head out on a hike. These are all great options. If you’re having a meal together, choose a place that isn’t too pricey or cheap. No one likes a showoff or a cheapskate! How about an art gallery? You can talk about the various pieces on display; that way, you don’t have to talk about yourselves the whole time. Don’t take your date to a noisy club. You don’t want to spend the entire night yelling in each other’s ears or, worse yet, not talking at all.

 

3. Dressing Inappropriately

Make sure you know where you’re going, so you can plan your outfit accordingly. Don’t be afraid to dress up a little and treat yourself to a haircut or facial. But, of course, that means you’ll need to leave the sweats at home (unless you’re doing something physical). Guys, wear a nice shirt. Ladies, it’s okay to show a little skin and experiment with your make-up, but remember, you’re making a first impression, and you want it to show you have class.

 

4. Giving Them Gifts

Guys, you don’t need to show up with three dozen roses and a massive box of chocolates on the first date. Likewise, ladies, you don’t need to buy him a gold chain. These gestures make you look desperate (and a little crazy). Instead, wow your date with witty banter and good manners. Keep it simple. If the date goes well, you’ll have other opportunities to give them or exchange gifts down the road.

 

5. Heavy Conversation

Keep the conversation light on the first date. Avoid the temptation to talk about nasty exes, the medications you take, religion, politics, and money. Of course, you can disclose a little about your past (where you’re from, what you studied in school, your hobbies, etc.), but never offload your life’s baggage on them before the appetizer arrives.

 

6. Being Overcritical

Don’t scrutinize your date too much. Don’t obsess over how it went or what each word or gesture meant. It’s the first date! Don’t dismiss them if they didn’t wow you. Everyone is nervous on a first date, even you. If you go on a second date (and maybe a third, fourth, etc.), they may unwind, and you’ll get a better sense of who they actually are.

 

7. Being a Bad Listener

When it comes to a first date, you should listen more than talk. Move the spotlight off yourself and on to the other person. It’s a conversation, not a monologue! And keep your eyes on your date in an appropriate manner. Don’t look at the hot server or the game on tv. Leave your phone in your pocket, don’t answer calls, and don’t respond to texts.

 

8. Overindulging in Food and Drink

Don’t drink so much that you get sloppy and inappropriate. Don’t eat so much that you spill on yourself or your clothes get uncomfortable. Show a little self-control. No one is going to find you charming if you’re intoxicated and eating everything in sight.

 

9. Not Following Up

If you want to go out with them again, call them the next day. It shows them you’re interested, and if you are, don’t play games by waiting three days to call or waiting for them to contact you. Finally, if you had a great time, make sure the other person knows it. Plan for your second date and ways to get to know them even better!

 

Dating is supposed to be fun! You have a wonderful opportunity to meet new people and explore new venues or experiences with a person that might be a special match for you. By learning 9 of the most common and troublesome first date mistakes, you can ensure you never waste your time or your emotions again!

How to Keep Jealousy from Destroying Your Relationship

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Jealousy

Over the years, jealousy has been referred to as a green-eyed monster. Jealousy has often been called the “green-eyed monster,” and with good reason. This creature is created by envy and grows like a cancer and, like this insidious disease it can spread quickly and can kill a relationship.

When it starts to grow it feeds on the jealousy felt by the partner until it turns them into the monster.  This jealousy and envy can turn us against ourselves.  With the jealousy we create tenuous hold on our own self esteem.  This can make us bitter and resentful and leads us into being envious of things that we don’t have that we think are important.

From this tiny seed of envy, a large tree of doubt and mistrust grows towards your partner and for no reason. You may be jealous of people who have a shared history or people who seem closer to your partner.  This can affect your behavior and your partner will definitely notice.

Instead of letting this grow, act positively by getting to know his friends so you can feel reassurance and also learn a bit more about your love. Here are some things you can do to make sure that you do not fall into the prison of jealousy:

  • Do not isolate yourself.
  • Devote free time to other people and not just always your partner.
  • Talk to your friends and colleagues.
  • Have a balance in your relationship.
  • Use self-care and know your own needs.

If you absolutely cannot break this jealousy chain, you can always consult a psychic who uses astrology can study the charts of you and your partner.  They may be able to find out if you really have reason to be jealous. She can also help you understand why you are the jealous type and reassure you that you are just someone inclined to be possessive or jealous. She can help you understand yourself and how to control your jealousy.

Scorpio’s and Jealousy

Scorpio is a sign that is closely connected to jealousy. The feelings in this sign run deep and are not often easy to express. An astrologer will look to see if you have any planets in the sign of Scorpio, especially the Moon or Venus. The Moon in Scorpio creates and possessive and emotional nature, and your sense of security will feel threatened by any ties that your partner has elsewhere.

The Moon in Scorpio will dictate the preference that these things are not displayed. Similar feelings will arise with old friends — especially female friends — and close work colleagues.

Finding love is not easy for a person with the Moon in Scorpio, because no one comes without baggage. Such jealousy can be difficult to communicate and even more difficult to live with, but a psychic can guide you in dealing with these feelings.

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in Scorpio has a slightly different approach. Venus is concerned with looks and romance, so the attractiveness of the exes, female friends, and work colleagues will be a big factor in jealous fears. If you have Venus in Scorpio in your chart, you will feel threatened particularly if your partner’s job brings him into daily contact with attractive women, whom you will see as rivals.

If he has to attend expensive lunches with attractive clients, you will feel threatened and demand that he make up for it by taking you out to dinner. If he has been looking forward to a quiet evening at home with you and does not understand why you need reassurance, it can damage your relationship.

Understanding Jealous Feelings

Understanding why you have these feelings can help you avoid unnecessary bouts of betrayal. He may not understand why you should feel jealous of people he needs to be in contact with every day. He may not understand that you see his contact with his ex in a different light. To him, it is something he has to do because they have joint business interests or children, while to you it looks as if he can’t let go of her.

Final Thoughts

If you can’t let go of these feelings of jealousy, they will molder and eventually destroy the new relationship as well. A psychic will advise you on the best ways of communicating with your partner, either by comparing your astrological natal charts or by reading the Tarot cards.

The key to a happy relationship is mutual understanding. Don’t let your jealousy turn you into another ex-girlfriend.

Love is a Card Game

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Love is a Card Game

Just like love, card games, particularly poker, is challenging.  There is a system of highly convoluted rules that change depending on the dealer and the players as they sit down.  This type of player is generally owned by gamblers and those who do not rely on luck and fortune to plot out a win.

Just like in the game of love, it isn’t always the person you expect to win the prize.   It is usually the same guy who walks off with the winnings, seemingly reliant on skill instead of luck.

If you look at romance and love as if it were a card game, you can gain some insight on what you can do to improve your gain.

What is a good hand?

Generally speaking, the cards with the highest numbers usually win.  But, played correctly, low cards can eventually win the day.  If you look at this in the way of love, what initially appears to be a winner may be beaten by someone who is a better match.

Why Is a Jack lower than a King?

If you continue on the lines of this metaphor, the Jack is constantly playing, preferring the quick hook-up to a full partnership. The King, on the other hand has a higher rating because he is a real man capable of real relationships.

The power of holding

In some games, you can always hold, or check. This means you don’t have to bet; you can stand still and take the opportunity to see what your fellow player may be willing to disclose. In this way, you can wait before you make your move on a potential partner so you can see how other people invest in a relationship.  By holding you can see if a bet is worth the investment.

Calling a Bet

At some point you have to decide if you want to take the chance.  This is best seen when you look at what your fellow players bring to the game.  Are you willing to match what someone else is willing to do.

Folding

If you stop taking a chance before the game is over, you don’t lose as much.  Recognize when you have not been dealt a winning hand.  Instead of trying to bluff your way to the rest of the game, cut your losses before you lose too much.

Wild card

Unless you are playing a professional game, the rules are very flexible.  Sometimes people will toss in the chance of a wild card. This can make a joker seem valuable. In that way, the wild card may have an importance to you that no one else can see. Stick by your choice and you may just emerge the winner.

Go all in?

If you have the best hand and are willing to see how high the stakes really are, you can safely commit to your choice.   If you know that you are the one and only in your partner’s eyes, you can confidently go all in by proclaiming that your relationship is the real thing. This will cause anyone else trying to play in this game to cash in their chips and go home.