9 Worst First Date Mistakes To Avoid

9 Worst First Date Mistakes To Avoid

Dating can be fun! You get to meet new people and see if they’re a match for you. But the road to love is also filled with bumps and potholes, many of them occurring on the first date!

Check out these nine first date mistakes. Have you made any of them?

 

1. Standing Them Up (Getting Stood Up)

Have you ever had a date with someone, only to have them not show up? Or have you made plans with someone and then changed your mind at the last minute? Unless you can’t get to your phone to cancel your date, you need to show up. Even if you’re not feeling it, you made a promise, and you need to go through with it. If possible, try calling and canceling in advance, but never leave someone hanging because you’re not ready to date, feel insecure, or lack interest.

 

2. Choosing The Wrong Location

When choosing a site for your first date, make sure it’s the kind of location that allows you and your date to get to know each other. Go for dinner, coffee, or head out on a hike. These are all great options. If you’re having a meal together, choose a place that isn’t too pricey or cheap. No one likes a showoff or a cheapskate! How about an art gallery? You can talk about the various pieces on display; that way, you don’t have to talk about yourselves the whole time. Don’t take your date to a noisy club. You don’t want to spend the entire night yelling in each other’s ears or, worse yet, not talking at all.

 

3. Dressing Inappropriately

Make sure you know where you’re going, so you can plan your outfit accordingly. Don’t be afraid to dress up a little and treat yourself to a haircut or facial. But, of course, that means you’ll need to leave the sweats at home (unless you’re doing something physical). Guys, wear a nice shirt. Ladies, it’s okay to show a little skin and experiment with your make-up, but remember, you’re making a first impression, and you want it to show you have class.

 

4. Giving Them Gifts

Guys, you don’t need to show up with three dozen roses and a massive box of chocolates on the first date. Likewise, ladies, you don’t need to buy him a gold chain. These gestures make you look desperate (and a little crazy). Instead, wow your date with witty banter and good manners. Keep it simple. If the date goes well, you’ll have other opportunities to give them or exchange gifts down the road.

 

5. Heavy Conversation

Keep the conversation light on the first date. Avoid the temptation to talk about nasty exes, the medications you take, religion, politics, and money. Of course, you can disclose a little about your past (where you’re from, what you studied in school, your hobbies, etc.), but never offload your life’s baggage on them before the appetizer arrives.

 

6. Being Overcritical

Don’t scrutinize your date too much. Don’t obsess over how it went or what each word or gesture meant. It’s the first date! Don’t dismiss them if they didn’t wow you. Everyone is nervous on a first date, even you. If you go on a second date (and maybe a third, fourth, etc.), they may unwind, and you’ll get a better sense of who they actually are.

 

7. Being a Bad Listener

When it comes to a first date, you should listen more than talk. Move the spotlight off yourself and on to the other person. It’s a conversation, not a monologue! And keep your eyes on your date in an appropriate manner. Don’t look at the hot server or the game on tv. Leave your phone in your pocket, don’t answer calls, and don’t respond to texts.

 

8. Overindulging in Food and Drink

Don’t drink so much that you get sloppy and inappropriate. Don’t eat so much that you spill on yourself or your clothes get uncomfortable. Show a little self-control. No one is going to find you charming if you’re intoxicated and eating everything in sight.

 

9. Not Following Up

If you want to go out with them again, call them the next day. It shows them you’re interested, and if you are, don’t play games by waiting three days to call or waiting for them to contact you. Finally, if you had a great time, make sure the other person knows it. Plan for your second date and ways to get to know them even better!

 

Dating is supposed to be fun! You have a wonderful opportunity to meet new people and explore new venues or experiences with a person that might be a special match for you. By learning 9 of the most common and troublesome first date mistakes, you can ensure you never waste your time or your emotions again!

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