Finally! You met a great person, and you feel that they may be the one but how can you really tell? Is it enough feeling to have your heart beating like crazy when you’re with the person?
There are some basic guidelines that you can follow in order to determine if you should continue on a path with them, or if you should let them go.
1 – They’re Willing to Meet in Person (when it feels right).
This may seem obvious but with today’s forms of dating such as apps, social media and general internet communication methods, meeting in person seems to often get put to the side and worse, used as an excuse not to meet in person within a reasonable period of time.
If someone is truly into you, they will not only want to see you but they will not be able to wait too long to do so. Granted, sometimes distance or finances can hold up the process of meeting in person but when someone wants to accomplish something, they won’t allow things to stand in the way forever.
Be smart about meeting in person. Make sure you are meeting when it feels right and ALWAYS meet in a public location the first time! If someone new is TOO aggressive about meeting in person, they might not be all they claim to be on-line. Make sure that you are being safe and that you are being careful for who you meet.
2 – They’re Responsive.
Do you often feel you might be too needy or have too high of expectations? When both people are excited about the other, then there is no such thing as “too” needy, or “too” high of expectations. Both people will enjoy talking to the other, respond to texts, e-mails, and return phone calls (people still do talk on the phone these days, right?)
Unless you are expecting the other person to check in with you every time they make a move, you are not being “too” anything and should be getting communication not only in return, but the other person should be initiating as well (see #5 below for more on that.)
3 – They’re Consistent.
If he or she is truly the one, then they should be consistent with their communication. Long breaks in speaking, e-mails, or texts is a bad sign, regardless of their reason. We make time in our day for the things and people important to us and there is no excuse for a long absence in communication. Give them the benefit of the doubt if it happens once, but if you sense a pattern, it is likely a behavior that is not going to change or improve.
4 – They Show Respect.
The way in which a person talks to you speaks volumes! Whether you communicate in person or other means you should be shown respect and consideration of your feelings and thoughts. Just as you should be mindful of their time allowed for communication and keep expectations reasonable, they too should be considerate of your need for communication.
5 – They Initiate Communication.
When someone is truly into you, they will make the effort and take time to reach out to you. You should never be the one doing all of the work in a relationship. When someone is into you, they will initiate communication, arrange dates, and ask for time with you.
Be sure that you allow them time to do so and are not overly aggressive or you could end up feeling they fail to initiate when you are not allowing them a chance to initiate first. Find that healthy middle ground!
The key to knowing if someone is truly the one is BALANCE.
Both people should equally be doing their share of the work in building a healthy relationship and no one should ever feel an absence of the other reaching out or being present. Keep a balance in your life and have fun finding the perfect partner.
I found this article to be profoundly insightful. The notion that excitement and consistency in communication are linked is especially striking. It’s a reminder that genuine connections require conscious effort from both parties. The practical tips provided here are invaluable for anyone looking to form a meaningful relationship.
This article provides a simplistic yet effective guide to recognizing mutual interest in a relationship. The emphasis on balance and reciprocal effort is critical for fostering a successful connection. It is a commendable reminder that respect and consistency should never be compromised in the pursuit of love.
This article truly resonates with me. The emphasis on balance and mutual effort in a relationship is crucial. Modern dating can be challenging, but these guidelines offer a practical approach to navigating it. I particularly appreciate the advice on personal safety when meeting someone new—an often overlooked but essential aspect. Excellent read!
I concur, Anne! The article lays out fundamental principles that are key to a healthy relationship. It’s refreshing to see a focus on mutual respect and initiative. The part about consistent communication being non-negotiable is particularly enlightening. Great insights!
The article outlines some fundamental aspects that are often overlooked in modern dating. The emphasis on consistent communication and mutual respect provides a solid foundation for evaluating a relationship’s potential.
The guidelines presented are quite logical and emphasize the importance of mutual effort in communication and respect. It’s crucial to remember that consistency and reciprocity are key indicators of a healthy relationship.
The advice presented here is quite practical and resonates with the concepts of effective communication and mutual respect seen in psychological studies. However, individual differences and context are just as important to consider.
It’s refreshing to see a well-structured approach to evaluating potential partners. The emphasis on mutual effort and respect is crucial for fostering healthy relationships. More people should adopt these guidelines to avoid unnecessary heartache.
The point about initiating communication being a shared responsibility is well-taken. It’s important to find that middle ground to ensure neither person feels overwhelmed or neglected.
Oh, so now I need a checklist to tell if someone is into me? Maybe next time, they’ll provide an app to calculate relationship dynamics. How futuristic!
While I appreciate the intent behind this article, it lacks depth. Building a relationship isn’t just about checking off boxes for communication and respect. There are complexities and nuances that this piece fails to address, such as emotional intelligence and conflict resolution. It oversimplifies a multifaceted aspect of human experience.
I appreciate the focus on balance and safety, especially in today’s digital dating world. Meeting in public places and ensuring mutual interest and respect can prevent many potential issues.
Oh, the irony of needing a step-by-step manual for realizing someone is ‘the one’. If you need a list to tell you that meeting in person and being respectful are important, perhaps you’re not ready for a relationship. It seems we’ve forgotten how to let human instincts guide us.
Seriously? Another list of dating dos and don’ts? Relationships are too complex for such rigid guidelines. This article oversimplifies human emotions and interactions.
Ah, the ‘meet in person’ rule. Because nothing says ‘romance’ like ensuring your first encounter isn’t a setup for a true crime documentary. The article should have gone into more depth about online safety.
Isn’t it fascinating that in today’s digital age, we still need to spell out the basics of human interaction under the pretense of relationship advice? One would think that meeting in person and being responsive would be intuitive, but alas, it appears common sense isn’t so common anymore.
Yeehaw! Ain’t it somethin’ that we need a how-to guide for love these days! Used to be ya just knew if someone was into ya. Now we got apps, texts, and whatnot. Pretty soon, we’ll need an app just to tell us if we’re breathin’ right! But hey, if it helps folks find balance, can’t be all bad.
This article offers practical advice on how to navigate the early stages of a relationship. The emphasis on mutual effort and respect aligns well with the principles of building a sustainable and balanced connection.