No one wants to think about a relationship going bad, particularly when you are about to build a new one. When doing the post mortem on your past relationships, it is tempting to over think every detail of what could have gone wrong.
If only there were some way to recognize the signs at the beginning before you invest time and emotion into a doomed relationship.
Here are some signs that things may not work out:
1) They disregard your friends.
This is actually a very clear signal that your partner is not interested in getting to know what you like and who you want to be around.
2) They lie for no reason.
Some have a pretty hard line on dishonesty. If you catch your love in a harmless lie and you choose to overlook it, you may find yourself on the receiving end of betrayal.
3) Rudeness to family members
Everyone has issues with their family, but if you notice your potential mate completely disrespecting their parents chances are good that they are incapable of respect for anyone.
4) They insist on knowing where you are all of the time.
It’s one thing to want to know if someone is safe and well. It’s another thing entirely for someone to need to know what you are doing every minute of every day. In an adult relationship both adults need independence.
5) They have no tolerance for animals
One of the first signs of emotional problems is an inability to show emotion or tolerance for any animal or pet.
6) The laugh at your goals and ambitions
If you can’t confide your aspirations to your partner, it will be impossible for you to grow together.
7) They don’t want to give your musical tastes a chance.
Everyone has different ideas of what makes a good song. If your partner won’t even try to listen to what you enjoy, how will you be able to come to an agreement on more important things?
8) They don’t have a savings account.
Most adults have some kind of resources. It doesn’t have to be thousands, but there should be a plan in place.
9) The don’t like their career but won’t change it.
If your partner hates everything about their job, but won’t move on, they won’t be able to invest in your personal happiness if they won’t do anything about theirs.
10) They won’t take risks.
If your partner is predictable to the point of boredom and is unwilling to try new things you will definitely have a long boring road ahead of you.
11) They won’t hold your hand
It may seem like a little thing, but if your partner won’t acknowledge you by simply taking your hand they may not be ready to show their love in any other way.
12) They make fun of the way you dress
If you are being niggled with “Are you sure you want to wear that?” every time you go out, they clearly don’t trust your taste.
13) They want you to change.
This may be masked as helpful hints and tips, but if they don’t like the way you look today, how will they feel when you get older?
14) They cut down your friends.
If your partner can’t be civil about the people you like, how soon will it be before they turn on you?
15) They are still in close contact with an ex.
Are you really comfortable with sharing your romance with someone he/she is done with?
16) You feel taken advantage of
You are constantly doing something nice or unexpected for your partner and it goes unrecognized or appreciated.
17) You feel alone, all of the time
If you feel lonely and unfulfilled, cut this off and find someone who truly loves you.
18) Your eye is wandering.
If you flirting or wanting to flirt with someone else, it’s time to reexamine what you want or need.