You have probably heard the old cliche about nothing lasting forever.  But what if you had a way to make your man fall for you over and over and over?

It’s not a secret that guys don’t like a routine or a set pattern. The do enjoy having someone who keeps them guessing and makes them work for their attention. They love a bit of a challenge. Here are a few ways to leave a lasting and vivid impression.

• After a brief tryst, don’t overburden him with information and get him out the door as soon as possible.
• Don’t let him know that you would like a relationship. Instead steer him in the opposite direction.
• Once you have dismissed him, begin to reveal a little about yourself. Chances are he will start trying to draw you in.
• Pull away when you see him start to pursue you, but just a little. Some guys relish the thrill of the chase. Pulling back will definitely get their interest.
• Be strange. A wild card is intriguing, and people will wonder what you will do next.
• Pick a unique location for your date. Choose something that he will find exciting or just a little scary.  The fear response is very close to love
• Keep him guessing about your feelings. Let him know in subtle ways that you are being pursued by others.
• Hold back if he suddenly cancels plans. If he acts like he doesn’t care, show him that you don’t either.
• Tell him about your ex but do not overdo it.
• Let him know what you are looking for but don’t be overly detailed on the first date.
• Show some interest but don’t let him think you are throwing yourself at him.
• Text him back if he texts you but don’t always be the one texting first.
• Do not always be available when he calls you. Show him that you are busy and that you have other plans.
• Make plans with other people and do not cancel on them just to go out on a date with him.

Don’t be afraid to let him see he you check out other men. Do this carefully and not at all once you are in a relationship. A little bit of jealousy and playing hard to get will go a long way.

Conclusion

Making a man fall in love with you takes a little time and patience. Learn to love yourself and then others will fall for this and love you back.

Be strong and confident and get what you want in life and in dating. Do not give in and become attached to just anyone but make sure that you keep your values and standards high when it comes to love and dating.

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If you want to be successful in dating, body language is everything. It’s more important even than your physical appearance. Solid body language is the best way to make a strong first impression and get him or her to notice you for the right reasons, so its importance can hardly be understated. Here are some basic but essential tips to help you sharpen your body language:

Eye Contact

In any social situation, eye contact is an important tool for connecting with other people. Looking into someone’s eyes signals that you’re present, you’re listening, and you’re open to creating a relationship.

By contrast, looking away (especially at your phone) while someone is speaking with you can be a sign that you don’t care or aren’t interested. Also, it’s super rude. That’s why eye contact is a key body language tactic for dating if you really want to show someone, you’re ready for more.

Bite Your Lower Lip

A little bit coy, a little bit sexy, this move is especially enticing. It’s flirtatious without being overtly forward and works especially well if you’re a woman. Try it and find out for yourself.

Play With Your Hair

This one is typically more of a female thing—as some guys don’t really have enough hair to do this—and it’s another coy signal of flirtation. Playing with your hair works exceptionally well if you have long luscious locks that your potential partner likely wants to run his or her fingers through.

Graze Their Thigh or Arm

Brushing your hand against your date’s thigh or arm is a harmless way to get some physical contact without being inappropriate. He or she will know that you’re interested on a more carnal level while you’re still keeping everything playful and light.

Uncross Your Arms

Having your arms folded over your chest is a clear signal of standoffishness. Even if you don’t mean to come off as closed off, holding this position will send that message. Be aware of your arm placement and make sure they stay loose at your sides or gently folded on the table in front of you.

Body Language, the Universal Language

Remember, body language is something that most people can understand. When someone smiles, we know that they are happy and when someone is frowning, we know they are sad. The way that you control your body language can tell your potential date or your partner about what you are feeling.

Always be aware of what kind of body language you are giving out to those that are around you so that you can be sure not to run off someone that you hope to have more time with.

True romance is a gamble. While some relationships seem to materialize without any effort, many require us to step outside our comfort zones. Some of us fall for people who seem too good to be true, only to discover they really are too good to be true. Others are intimidated by the idea of taking salsa dance lessons or going on a blind date set up by your brother’s roommate’s cousin to find that “special someone.”

But the important thing is to keep trying. Here are some places you may have been overlooking as you seek romance:

Online

For the past decade, online dating has experienced a seismic shift from cautious to widespread acceptance. More than 50 percent of Americans know someone who met their partner over the internet through online dating. A similar percentage recommends dating sites as a viable, respectable way to meet other singles. Besides online dating sites don’t overlook general social media as an avenue to find romance with someone that has similar interests to yours.

Mutual Friends

While some couples do still meet through mutual friends, this trend is also dramatically changing. Fewer couples have been meeting through friends over the last 20 years. Many singles automatically rule out the option of being set up with someone through “that” friend who always seems to know someone who’d be “perfect for you! “

And don’t forget that when you make a new friend, you’re not just linked to them, but to their entire social network including their family, friends, and co-workers. All those warnings aside, your friends may know best!

At Work

Though they can be complicated, office relationships still do happen. Even star employees can make the most out of an office romance while continuing stellar performance on the job. Open conversation by offering compliments when deserved or offering help when needed. But always remain aware of your company’s employee handbook or list of policies, which may state that employees aren’t allowed to be romantically involved.

Around Town

Being anywhere outside of your home increases the chances you’ll make interpersonal connections and meet someone new. Go out and spend time in cafes, libraries, and other local hangouts around town. Does your town have a sports team? Become a fan. A book club? Sign up. Biking or running groups? Join in! Bird-watching? Video-gaming? Whatever your interests, find a way get involved. It’s the perfect opportunity to make connections with new people. Those connections may even evolve into something more.

At School

Many couples also still meet at school. Whether the school is large or small, it generally includes people of similar age and background to yours. Some couples only see each other at school. With little time to spend together outside the classroom, trying to be romantic may be a daunting task. But don’t be discouraged. Romance can be created anywhere, even at school. You don’t always need a romantic setting to be romantic.

Anyone who has ever been disappointed in a relationship knows how hard it is to find the “right” person. Making yourself date-able is only half the battle. The other half is knowing where to make that fateful connection.

Marriage is hard work and there is no guarantee that it will be a success. As hard as it is to realize, the early days of blissful romance do not last forever.   But as hard work is its own rewards, an investment in a marriage will yield many benefits.

The things that are most vital to a relationship are communication and connection and intimacy.  The connection helps you feel close to your partner.  This is because your shared values as well as a concern for your needs brings you together.

Communication skills are also important because it helps you understand each other as well as making yourself understood. The vulnerability that accompanies intimacy helps trust evolve and grow. All of these things are generally present when a couple gets married.  Can it be sustained over years? It can if you build in good habits for a good marriage.

Show your partner you are happy to see them.

Really express your love when you see your partner.  Give them a warm embrace along with your full attention and let them know how glad you are to be next to them. Not only is this a physical sign of your love, but it also helps release oxytocin which is a hormone that helps you bond with your partner.

Always be grateful

When you retire for the night, be sure you show your appreciation for something your partner has done for you.  You can even leave a little note for them. This expression of gratitude is a sign of your appreciation and reinforces your own feelings of love.

Be empathetic

Instead of being a “right fighter” and fixating on your side of an argument, take a minute to see their side of the issue.   Take a minute to actually hear and restate their concerns. It is absolutely all right to ask them to do the same

Listen mindfully

Listen to your partner when they are upset. Do not try to fix their problem. Just listen. Many times, they just want someone to hear their point of view. Ask them what they need from you.  Sometimes it’s just a kind ear.

Sweet nothings matter

There are certain things your partner needs to hear from you. These are those words that make them feel valued and loved.  Once you know what these words are, let them hear them from you often. These words are the fuel that will help keep your romance going.

Memories are important.

Share your memories with each other.  Tell them about the things you always think about when they are thinking of you.  Share these thoughts with them. These happy moments will help strengthen the bond between you.

Don’t be afraid of change

Change happens. It’s the only constant in life.  Talk to each other about change in each other’s lives, keep an open mind and an understanding heart. Ask them for their impressions of the change in each other.

Share your dreams

If you feel that you have lost touch with each other, ask them what their dreams and hopes are.  Once again, be open and honest.  Listen to what they are saying without jumping to conclusions.  Ask them what they would like to achieve over the next several years.  Perhaps ask what you can do to help them reach their goals.

Remember that partnership means both of you. Any partnership needs attention and work to survive.  Do not ever stop trying or stop listening to what your partner needs or wants.  This doesn’t have to be hard work. Just a few words and hugs can keep a romance alive and growing.

Dating someone new after a divorce can be a difficult decision to make. Whether your marriage lasted for decades or only a short time, you’ll find that the dating scene is always evolving. Follow these six tips on how to deal with dating after a divorce for a happier and healthier you.

Love Yourself

Divorce is never easy, and you may come out of yours feeling less than great about yourself and everyone around you. Put yourself first and create situations where you know you’ll feel good. Book a spa appointment, take a girls’ weekend, or tackle the redecoration project you’ve been putting off.

Forget About Your Ex

If you find yourself thinking about your ex too much, whether it’s wondering who he’s with or what he’s doing, take steps to move on and focus on more productive thoughts. If you can’t move past your ex, it’s not fair to consider a relationship with a potential new partner. A love psychic can help you think through and work past issues with your ex.

Explore New Things

This is the perfect time to give yourself another chance. Try new things and open yourself up to new experiences. Give yourself a goal of trying just one new thing each month, whether it’s a class or an activity group, and see where it leads you. Chances are you’ll like at least some of the new things you try, and you may unintentionally meet a new friend or romantic interest along the way.

Be True and Prepared

First dates and new relationships come with many getting-to-know-you questions. Previous relationships and divorce are sure to come up as you become acquainted, and it’s best to have simple, straightforward answers ready. Remember that it’s only fair to share the truth, but your date doesn’t need or want to hear the dirty details.

Build a Support System

A solid support system is critical to your emotional and mental wellbeing, and it can be important for your sense of safety, too. Your support system might include a trusted friend or two who join you when you try new things, or it can include a confidante who you check in with a few times a week. Build your system in a way that works best for you and be sure to get the support you need.

Prepare To Take Risks

Once you’ve gotten over lingering ex issues, consider going on a date as practice for future relationships. Even if you’re not ready for something serious, it’s important to relearn what it’s like to be around someone new. Use this as an opportunity to meet new people and get comfortable putting yourself out there.

Treat this as a chance to boost your self-confidence, too, as you work on improving yourself for your own sake as well as that of a potential partner. If you do meet someone special, an authentic psychic can tell you if he’s the one.  Dating after a divorce is fraught with many challenges. Approach dating thoughtfully and with an open mind to find the most enjoyment in your new life.

Have you noticed that when you are doing something that you are passionate with, time seems to just pass while taking your fears and worries with it? Or how, after accomplishing something, the artists are blooming and inspired? Maybe you’ve even experienced the flow of love or sexual energy after spoiling in a creative endeavor. This is not a misconception: Having a creative hobby that you are passionate about– whether it’s cooking, dance, or visual art — is a great way to practice self-love, strengthen your second and fourth chakras, and generally have a juicier life.

And the juicier we feel about ourselves, the more visible we are to potential partners. Creative play makes us more attractive, creates receptivity in the field and “attraction” chakras, as well as cultivates all-important self-love.

How Creativity Affects the Energy Field

Our aura, or energy field, is one of the main points of attraction between us and another. This is true for any kind of relationship. Though you may not be able to see auras with your naked eye, your own energetic antennae will pick up the vibration of another’s field. We’ve all felt this, and whatever is present in our aura will be sensed by others as well. So, it makes sense that when we are feeling the pleasure of artistic endeavor, our field becomes “shinier” and more attractive.

Two chakras in particular, the second and fourth, contribute to the receptivity and “good vibes” in our energy field. The second, or sacral chakra governs our feelings, sexuality, creativity, and self-love. As one of the lower chakras, it is instinctual and primal.

The fourth chakra, or heart center, governs our love for others and how we give and receive love. Both of these chakras are stimulated by the creative process and are essential to have at maximum operation if you want to attract love and passion that is in alignment with your true self.

Creativity, Self-Love, and Attraction

Creativity is a primal and essential part of being human. It is related to the procreation — the connection to the second chakra. Creative work strengthens self-love via the surrender to the creative process. As you immerse yourself in doing something that brings you joy, endorphins and other neurotransmitters are released by the brain. This allows relaxation and a sense of well-being — all of which help you to attract a love that is good for you.

Let’s look at a real-world example. Lisa was a visual artist but found it hard to be disciplined around her art. She had a bit of the tortured artist stereotype going on, often thinking: “If I’m an artist, I have to suffer.” We did some energy work around this belief, and she started to have a more positive connection to painting. As she gave time to her art every week, I noticed that overall, she was happier and more relaxed, and was kinder to herself in other ways.

Lisa had also been single for quite a while and had a history of emotionally abusive relationships. I encouraged her to paint through some of her pain and to allow her creative spirit to help her heal. Even though her paintings became quite dark, her aura remained strong and vibrant as she honored her feelings and also her artistic self.

After a few months of commitment to her painting, Lisa met a man at an art opening. He was not her “type,” but because she was open and happier with herself, she was receptive to developing a friendship with him. A few fun outings later, the relationship began to deepen and is healthy. They are both artists and both take time in their busy lives to play with their creative spirit.

Ways to Connect to Your Creativity

Many people protest that they aren’t creative. This isn’t true — it isn’t even possible! But many of my clients are cut off from their creative impulse, and this shows up in sluggish chakras and limited thinking about life in general — including expectations around love.

Our creative muses are always waiting for us. I help clients connect to what might be a good outlet for them through Tarot and intuitive readings. We can also look at the astrological chart to help find innate but perhaps latent talents or divine best directions.

Often, I start by just having the client make a list of what they loved to play and do in childhood. With a bit of thought, people are often surprised to remember that they wrote endless adventure stories as a child, or played dress-up, or loved to make their own comic books. Children are creative, but our original artistic longings often get buried in time.

Janine was a woman in her late 50s who came to me because she felt frustrated in love and in life generally. She had suffered a bitter mid-life divorce and had been a workaholic since. When I looked at her aura, it was clear that her fourth and second chakras were undernourished, and that her relationship to herself had never really bounced back from the divorce. I asked her what her self-love practice was, and she just stared at me.

“I take a bath once in a while, sometimes make myself a nice meal. But — who has time for self-love? I’m not sure I even know what that is!”

We had a few sessions together and discovered that she had a childhood passion for acting out stories. I asked her if she’d like to explore theater. Though she didn’t feel she could commit to auditions, we hit upon the idea of an acting class. A part of her lit up at the thought. Though she was inclined to dismiss it, we made a contract that she would try it out.

The class focused on improvisation and was filled with interesting people of all ages. As Janine came for her sessions, I could see her chakras opening, and her joy was apparent. The class made her laugh and called out her creativity. Because it was a structured event that she paid for, she felt committed to going. This worked better for her than trying to come up with a creative practice at home (which was clearly indicated by her astrological chart).

Janine made new friends in the class and ended up beginning a relationship with her teacher. At our last session, the relationship was blossoming along with Janine’s new respect for her creative self. She has even encouraged her daughter to return to a high school photography hobby.

Do the simple writing exercise above to help you uncover the inner creative spirit that awaits you. As you make time for loving expression of your artistic longing, you will find more joyful relationships entering your life.

In the ever-present age of pressures from social media, television, film, and your peers around you to be perfect, it can prove difficult to be aware of whether or not your taking the time needed to simply slow down and love yourself. And if you’re having a problem with loving yourself, it’s going to then be difficult to give love to your children in return.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you don’t love your children. But what it does mean is that if you’re ignoring yourself and putting the needs of your children before your mental and physical well-being, it could lead to problems in the future. Simply put…it’s important to take care of and love yourself, which will make giving love to your children easier and more genuine.

A good place to start when trying to be conscience of loving yourself more would be to be less hard on yourself…less judgmental. Of course, parenting is a tough gig, and you’re bound to run into problems and frustrations along the way. The important thing to remember is to not get so down on yourself. If you’re being judgmental towards yourself, that can likely lead to your children learning to be judgmental towards themselves as well. If you treat yourself in an unloving manner, your children will be more likely to do the same themselves, resulting in low self-esteem and a judgmental perception of themselves.

Loving yourself will automatically translate into being a loving parent in return. Taking the time for self-love and awareness will also leave a lasting positive impression on your children. This is why it’s so important to take the time to love yourself. In taking time to love yourself, however, that doesn’t mean you must ignore your child’s needs in favor of your own. It’s about creating a balance. In creating a balance, you can put aside time for yourself and working on your self-love as well as making the time to use that love of self when spending time giving love to your children.

Setting aside time for yourself can be difficult, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Communication is key in any relationship…including one with your children. Let them know that you need a bit of time by yourself for a while. You can suggest they do things to keep themselves busy like reading a book or playing with their siblings in another room. It’s important to be firm with them but also to help them understand that mommy or daddy needs a little break to rest, recharge, and focus on themselves.

As a parent, it’s important to realize that you must learn to respect your own feelings and needs along with the needs and feelings of your children. Understanding that it’s not being selfish if you need some alone time to focus on loving yourself is also a vital key to making sure you take the time to actually do it.

Often times we get caught up in the lives of our children so much so that we forget that we really need to slow it down sometimes and make sure we are taking care of ourselves as well. In taking care of ourselves, we can then use that self-love and give love more freely and genuinely to our children.

So, when it comes to loving yourself and taking the time out needed to effectively do that, remember, it’s not because you’re being selfish or neglecting the needs of others. In fact, in being aware of our need to love ourselves before we can give love to others, we are being self-responsible. And in turn, those who are self-responsible and self-loving have an excellent chance at raising children who will grow up to be caring and personally responsible themselves.

It’s been for a little while since you dated. You were hitched, or in a long haul, submitted relationship, and after that, for unknown reason, it finished. All of a sudden, you wind up in another world in which the standards of dating have changed and you are uncertain how to begin to find new love.

Online dating for women looking to start over can be scary. Any relationship that is older than a smartphone—that is to say, around 10 years or more—is one that started before a great shift occurred in how people meet their love interests. People have been meeting online for longer than that, of course, but as recently as 15 years ago, it was still (unfairly) considered strange. Now, it is normal, and it comes with its own rules and language.

This can be scary to navigate, especially because after leaving a long relationship—one in which you may have thought you’d be in forever—you can be emotionally vulnerable. Unfortunately, vulnerability is one of the primary sources of prey on the internet: It’s something that the worst among us can exploit for their own bitter or misogynistic ends.

Those kinds of people don’t have to bother you, though, if you are strong and sure of yourself. One way to become the strong person you want to be is to meet with a spiritual advisor to understand your strengths and weaknesses before diving back into the dating pool. It can help you swim.

Online Dating Tips for Starting Over

When you are ready, here are a few things to keep in mind when you decide to dive back into dating:

Be honest, even if you think others aren’t. Starting an online dating profile is an exercise in temptation. I want to be in better shape and plan to be, so it is okay if I say I already am, right? Sure, a little exaggeration is acceptable. After all, we all put our best foot forward when meeting someone.

We might tell a white lie about pretending to like indie movies when we see nothing but rom coms—but making an aspirational profile will just end up backfiring. You are who you are, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. You are a woman who has been out of the dating arena, and now you are back in. Don’t hide what shouldn’t be hidden.

Don’t think the next date has to be “the one. “You’ve been in a relationship for a long time, and for a lot of people, that means there was a certain comfort in having someone near at all times, even if the romance was gone. We are social creatures, and we get used to people. We get used to having someone there in the morning.

When online dating after a divorce, it is easy to say, “Well, I don’t see a long future with that guy; he works weird hours.” But you shouldn’t let that stop you. This isn’t about “he might be the one.” It’s about giving yourself a chance to rediscover who you are when you are dating.

You don’t have to meet a spouse right away. Nor should you believe that that’s the goal. If you do, you’ll put too much pressure on yourself and will never get started.

Don’t take rejection personally. So many people are just flipping through and making snap judgements. You might be doing the same. Others may have more solid reasons. It’s easy to think that any rejection is a reflection of you, but that is a non-empathetic way of looking at it.

Remember that many people are in the same situation you are in. They might be scared, frightened of rejection, or nervous about acceptance. Maybe they are new to this.

Everyone has their own story, and it doesn’t always revolve around you. Shake off rejection and keep moving forward. If you are confident in yourself, it shouldn’t bother you.

Don’t take the jerks personally. You’ve probably heard that online dating can be a cruel world in which bitter and petty people take out their anger on a whole gender and abuse you with names if you have the audacity to turn them down. Unfortunately, that can be true. It’s not many people, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t shocking and sickening when it happens to you.

On many sites, you can report someone for verbal abuse, but remember: It isn’t about you personally. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Don’t let it throw you off from discovering yourself. You shouldn’t let anyone define you, much less the creepiest and the smallest.

Go slow—you aren’t part of the on-demand economy. When online dating, there is a lot of pressure to act. After all, you’ve been matched up with someone, and they are messaging you. But that’s not how it works.

Whether you are using a more relaxed site like eHarmony or Match or a supposed hookup site like Tinder, you are allowed to go at your own pace and turn things down if you want. There isn’t an Uber for dating. You have full agency over your choices, and you can’t let anyone pressure you into anything.

It can be like a normal relationship. You might think that everything has changed, but that’s not totally true. The modality has changed, but not the people. You can go on a date and then talk on the phone a few times before meeting again, just like before. You can talk on the phone first (some people suggest that to get a better feeling — but it is up to you!).

You don’t have to feel pressure to act in any way. You also don’t have to be calm. You can be butterflied and excited and nervous and dreading it and bursting with anticipation at the same time. Human emotions haven’t changed. You don’t have to pretend that we are in a world that is somehow less fraught with excitement, irrationality, and the joy of falling in love.

Be Yourself

The most important tip is to be yourself, and the best way to do that is to know yourself. It can be hard to understand who you are when you’re single if you have been part of a couple for so long.

Even people who are fiercely independent begin to see themselves as part of a pair, even if just out of habit. That’s normal and being cut adrift from that can be jarring.

Talk to a Spiritual Advisor

That’s why so many people turn to spiritual advisors: psychics, tarot readers, astrologers, and more. We can help you discover your fears and your hopes, and how to achieve them. We work with you to understand what you need and what your path is.

We give you the confidence to stretch out, plug in, boot up, and start dating. We work with ancient wisdom to give you the most powerful and important gift of all: the power of self-definition.

Dating has always been a rough world, and the rise of internet-based protection can bring out the worst in people. But it can also bring out the best. Tenderness and kindness still exist, they don’t have to be blotted out by cruelty. You can find the joy and the sweet terror of a new relationship as long as you are true to yourself.

Sleeping may appear like an entirely latent action yet with regards to imparting a bed to your partner, you’re napping style can uncover such a great amount about your relationship. Along these lines, what you do between the sheets matters when you’re being personal as well as when you’re getting those daily Z’s, as well.

Check out some of the most common sleeping positions, below, to discover interesting new insight into your bond with your significant other.

Facing Each Other                                                             
You two are super connected, not just physically but emotionally. This position allows you to look into each other’s eyes before you close them for the night, and then gaze at each other again first thing in the morning. If the eyes are the window to the soul, as the phrase goes, you definitely take full advantage of this. You love each other deeply and continue to crave feeling that special connection you have.

Embracing Each Other
For the super passionate—or newly coupled—this position is quite the norm. Sleeping wrapped up in each other’s arms indicates commitment, love and devotion, no doubt about that. (However, in some ways, this position may also suggest just the slightest twinge of clinginess, especially if there’s an expectation that you should sleep like this.)

If this used to be your go-to sleep style in the beginning of your relationship, when things were exciting and fresh, but you rarely sleep this way anymore, this change isn’t a big deal. At some point, you started prioritizing a good night’s rest over having to deal with the all-too-common side effect of this sleep style: waking up with super painful and tingly dead-arm in the middle of the night.

Spooning
Many couples may start the night like this, or roll over in the morning to cuddle, which suggests happiness and tenderness. Holding your partner, and being held, causes your bodies to release the feel-good hormone oxytocin, making you both feel totally blissed out. Both long-term and new couples alike may enjoy the sweetness of this position, whether they sleep all night this way or just spoon briefly.

Head-on-Chest
This position suggests a feeling of comfort and nurture, with one person passively lying on the other. The partner who’s being laid on is a pillar of strength and stability, while the partner who’s doing the lying may be more differential and sensitive. By being the yin to the other’s yang, this sleep style indicates compatibility: You each bring something unique to your relationship that fulfills the other’s needs.

Back-to-Back

It’s easy to label this position as not as passionate as the others—after all, what’s romantic about two people who supposedly love each other retreating to opposite sides of the bed? But, really, sleeping back-to-back is quite benign and shouldn’t be looked at as sign of a lack of intimacy.

Rather, you both respect each other’s needs for sleep, and space, when needed, recognizing that sometimes it’s okay to put one’s own comfort first. As long as you do some snuggling, or something more, in your bed, sleeping like this shouldn’t be a cause for concern about the state of your relationship.

It seems there’s always been a negative connotation with the word single when it pertains to women who aren’t in a relationship. Being a single lady can unfortunately carry with it the stigma that you’re lonely and incomplete. Of course, that’s definitely not always true, and in many cases, being single can actually be liberating and self-esteem boosting.

In a society that seems to be heavily couple-oriented, being single can often be portrayed as being a terrible thing. What’s a single girl to do aside from being lonely and praying or hoping that prince charming will come sweep her off her feet? Well, this is definitely a myth that needs to be shattered immediately, as being single can actually be a positive thing for the mind, body, and soul.

Burdens on Women

Society has put quite a lot of expectations and burdens on women, leading them to tend to be hard-wired to believe that without a partner, they are incomplete. Often times it doesn’t matter how successful a woman is or how hard she’s worked to make a name for herself, she’s defined by whether or not she’s married or in a relationship. There’re also the many negative connotations used against women who have seemingly been single for a long time or are at a certain age and still single.

Words such as old maids and spinsters are used to shame a woman into thinking that she needs to hurry up and find a partner before her biological clock stops ticking or that she has to have a partner to feel whole.

Being Single and Free

These negative stigmas that seem to follow single women don’t have to come to fruition though. There are so many positive and reasons why being single can actually be a good and freeing thing. And once you can come to terms with being happy in the single life, the more likely you’ll be to carry that happiness and positive self-awareness when you actually do find partner.

Being single means having the freedom to do whatever you want. Without the responsibilities of having to take care of family and giving your attention to your partner, you’re free to get out there and explore the endless possibilities that await. And that definitely doesn’t sound like a negative thing.

You have the ability to come and go as you please and spend your time doing things you enjoy. Whether you decide to exercise your freedom with meditation, prayer, or just enjoying the excitement of discovering a new hobby, you have that freedom to do so because of your choice of being single. Of course, that doesn’t mean that having a partner means you can’t do any of these types of things, but it does limit it to a certain extent.

The bottom line here is that there is a positive effect to having the freedom of not having to answer to anyone other than yourself, and it allows you to not only try new things but discover new things about yourself as a person as well.

One of the most important things to remember while you’re out there living the single life is to not let yourself be burdened with the negativity that others will try to throw at you in regards to not having a partner.

The more you embrace the positive sides to being single, the more confidence you’ll gain when it comes to eventually actually finding the right partner. So, cherish that single life while you’ve got it. Embrace it and cast off those negative notions that being single equates to being lonely. Because once you finally do find that partner, it will be all the more satisfying since you learned to embrace the freedom of your single status in a positive way.

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