All relationships require some effort to keep them healthy, but if you’re trying too hard to make your relationship work, it may be a sign your relationship isn’t meant to survive. There are many ways to define an energy-draining relationship. Despite the feelings you have for each other, sometimes love is not enough, and you may still need to end up your relationship and start over.

Many people stay in a relationship that is consuming their mind and energy, because they are afraid to be alone or they may financially depend on their partners. They know it’s time for the relationship to end but they simply can’t accept the idea of being single again.

We all heard stories about couples who didn’t discuss it honestly and instead they started to talk to other guys and girls online. However, this doesn’t solve the problem. It’s difficult to break up with someone after spending a significant amount of time together. Your life may be harder without a partner, but be brave and face it, if your partner is unable to meet your needs anymore, then it’s time to end this draining relationship.

Some signs of a dead-end relationship you may ignore:

Feeling bored

You spend more time playing on your phone than spending a quality time with your partner, or you watch TV in the living room while your partner is checking his Facebook status on his news feed.

Your sex life sucks

Do you avoid having sex with your partner? Is it one of issues that leads to fight? Does having sex with your spouse makes you feel uncomfortable?

Perhaps having sex with your partner was fun when you started dating, however, you may no longer be attracted to your partner and the desire you felt for them seems to have faded on one or both of ends.”

Marriage is out of the question

Being married to your current partner is completely out of the question. You can’t accept the idea that you will spend the rest of your life with your partner.

They are not playing their part

Do you always feel that you are the one who is taking the whole responsibility and you can’t quit your job, because if you did, you know that your partner wouldn’t be able to pay the bills?

Are you the one who is taking care of the both of you? Do you feel that your partner is a dead weight? Do you feel that your partner is financially using you? If so, maybe it’s time to end the relationship and find a partner who plays his part.

You are irritated all the time

You are the only one who makes an effort in your relationship. Everything your partner does upsets you. Having ongoing arguments can be a sign you are forcing things to work.

You always seek another opinion

It’s healthy to turn to your family and friends to give you a relationship advice. But if you find yourself asking them for their opinion every single day, ask yourself a question: Why does it constantly need fixing?

You don’t trust your partner

Trust is a big part of a relationship. Trust in the small things and the big things. Trust is one of the most important factors in a relationship. If you are unable to trust your partner, you will never feel safe or happy in the relationship.

It is important to understand where the lack of trust is coming from. Is it your own issues or a result of something that occurred in the relationship in the past? Without building that trust in the relationship, the relationship won’t be healthy, and the relationship won’t survive.

You are attracted to someone else

You are in a long-term relationship, but you start to feel the attraction to another one because you are unhappy with your partner.

You can’t stand your partner anymore

You hate everything about your partner. Noting pleases you. He breathes weird and can’t even make a sandwich properly. It’s a sign that you can’t stand him anymore.

You started to cancel on them

Your partner calls you to hang out or just to speak with you and you simply cancel on him/her pretending that you are busy. You come up with any excuse just to get you out of spending time with your partner, even overtime work is better than spending some time with your boyfriend or girlfriend!

You are not jealous anymore

It doesn’t matter if your partner calls to let you know that he/she is hanging out with someone else, and you tell them to have fun and enjoy their time. You just don’t care what they are doing……. you’re more of friends than partners.

You re-activate your dating app

You download the dating app, and you start building your dating profile. You set your marital status to single. You are looking for someone else, someone make you happy and fulfill your needs. You start chatting with a new guy online looking for something you are missing in your partner.

You start wondering: Am I in a dead-end relationship?

You stay online for hours seeking some advice to help heal your relationship. You keep asking yourself the question: Should I go? Should I stay? hoping that things will get better, but you already know it won’t. You ask yourself and probably, you already know the answer!

Remember

A relationship is not a job. If something is wrong, your relationship might feel like an endless battle. It’s important to be honest with yourself about what you really want in a relationship. If your partner doesn’t fulfill your needs, it’s okay to move on and find someone else who does

So, don’t waste your time and life stuck in a draining relationship. It’s time consuming, energy draining and life wasting. Instead, start over and find someone new. Someone you want to be with. Go ahead and start fresh!

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Every time that a relationship ends, there will be that nagging question, “What did I do wrong?” The curiosity about the causes for a break up and the assumptions can create as much heartbreak as the actual split. The desire to find answers becomes an irresistible quest.

Obviously, there are times when someone did do something wrong, and the answer can be clear cut. There are also situations that make a relationship breakup impossible to understand.

It’s Not You, It’s Me

An often-used explanation for a relationship failure is the line, “It’s not you, it’s me,” or the equally banal “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” Neither say much. The “what” and “whys” of the breakup still remain a mystery.

The reality is that in some cases people realize their needs have changed. If you both agree to monogamy, and one firmly decides they want an open situation, failure is just around the corner.

If you start dating and one wants marriage and the other not, eventually, if no one has a change of mind, someone has to say goodbye.  After years of being together, some couples conclude that their marriage had a beginning and an end. It is not necessarily true that anyone is at fault, it’s just a case of changing wants and needs.

Time Can Bring You Together… or Tear You Apart

Different interests, belief systems or passions can turn compatible people into strangers. If your differences are at odds with each other, that can undo the bonds of love.

When love starts, a number of things can change and, in that change, that flurry of passion can simply fade away. There is no one to blame and this is one of those cases where desire was gone.

The love that seems so good at age twenty may not look so good at forty. Time can bring couples together, but it can also tear them apart. Love sometimes just seems to grow cold as time moves on and sometimes this is something that the person cannot even explain.

Change, age, and interests can divide couples that have been together for short or long periods of time. The nature of a relationship can be complex. It can be so hard to understand that the reasons for parting a relationship that it may require a course in psychology in order to fully comprehend the details.

Relationships sometimes start strong, but they end very weak due to different reasons that life brings us. When these changes happen, love can fade, and it is often times not the fault of either partner. Changes in love is something that happens to some while others stay in love for what seems like forever.

It is understandable that when love dies answers are needed. We want to learn and grow from the past. The problem is that you may end up of blaming yourself for something that is not your fault.

Have you ever dreamed of finding your perfect partner?  A special person who is made for you. That someone who understands you in every way and can share your joys and fears?  Do you want to know how to find your soulmate?

Picture the scene:

You and that significant other are sitting cozily by a roaring wood fire.  You look dreamily into their eyes and without having to speak they know exactly what you are going to say and so you laugh together, reflecting on all the times you have spent together complete in happy fulfillment.  You never argue or even exchange a cross word, you are so in tune with each other. Well don’t worry as most people have not and will not experience something like this.  The truth is that I don’t believe this is what a soulmate is.

Does that mean that soulmates don’t exist? No! That kind of level of closeness and telepathy is usually only found in the rare but special twin flame relationships. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a wonderful relationship with someone who is not your twin flame.

The point I’m trying to make here is that a soulmate doesn’t mean the other person being perfect and totally in sync with you, and you can find an amazing soul level closeness despite some differences in thinking and ways of being, and still be with your soulmate.

Some Frequently asked Soul Mate Questions

What Is a Soul Mate?

While there are many definitions for soulmate meanings, it’s generally held that a soulmate represents a very special connection with another, a relationship full of deep, intimate, fulfilling moments.

However, this does not mean that you will never argue or get cross with each other, or that you will feel the same about every issue or have all the same interests or so on.  A bond of that kind is very rare (and not necessary to have a happy life) but can sometimes be found in a twin flame relationship. Some people realize that finding your soul mate is as much to do with a spiritual journey within yourself as finding that other person.

What does this mean?  Well to be in such a special and understanding relationship, you need to be in a good place in yourself, and you need to know who you are and what you want from life.  After all, if you don’t know and love yourself, how can you know and love someone else?

I truly believe that soulmates are not just limited to romantic relationships but can be friendships and family members too.

How I know when I have met my soulmate?

What a soulmate is to you depends on who you are, but you can expect things like feelings of a special level of closeness, flashes of telepathy (e.g., knowing what the other is thinking), laughing till you cry, having amazing conversations, excellent sexual chemistry (obviously this only applies to romantic soulmates!).

But unlike twin flame relationships you can also expect the more down to earth aspects of two people getting on, like having small quarrels and so on. Sometimes my soulmate drives me mad, but we do get all those symptoms, and other people might experience these or different ones.

Do you only get one?

A popular misconception is that we only get one soulmate and when we meet that person, we will stay with them forever. As I said before, many people can be your soulmate and they can stay for years, possibly the rest of your life, but sometimes only hours, days, weeks, or months.

This might sound distressing but sometimes we have learnt all the lessons we have to learn from someone and they from us and it’s time to move on, but we can do this in a way that recognizes the beauty of what we’ve had and is open to finding that again. I also think that as friends and family can be soulmates that often people have more than one at one time.

Is there a soulmate for everyone?

I truly believe that there is a soulmate for everyone, in fact I think that there are many, many soulmates for each person, but it is a question of having the confidence to believe in that and also living a life that puts you in positions where you might meet such a person.

Naturally if you see and do the same things everyday it could be harder to meet someone new. Of course, something to bear in mind is that maybe your soul mate is someone you know.

My current partner has been my best friend for 10 years and neither of us even considered that we should be together in that way, which seems strange now that I think about it but there you go.

How to Find Your Soulmate – 4 Great Tips

As I mentioned before, you’ll have much better luck finding your soulmate if you feel good about yourself and recognize that in life you tend to get back what you give. So, if you are going about emanating good positive energy with self-confidence, people will see and sense this energy and be attracted to you, both in the literal sense of crossing your path at some point and also potentially finding you physically attractive.

This doesn’t mean if you are feeling depressed you can’t find a special person but looking inside is the best place to start on your journey of finding a soul mate. When you understand yourself better you will also find it easier to recognize that someone is interested in you and to see whether or not they are your soulmate.

1. Law of Attraction/Cosmic Ordering

Carrying on from the theme above, things like daydreaming and setting goals for yourself are powerful tools to get what you want, and many people of all different backgrounds use this kind of technique for all different things.

When you are trying to find your soulmate try having a picture of him or her in your mind. Try not to get too bogged down in the physical but instead visualize the types of things you might do together, the way you might feel looking at them, thinking about them, being with them.

At least once a day imagine yourself sending out love and good energies, with a magnetic pull. Imagine those good feelings spreading out like a huge net and drawing to you all the good energies it finds out there.  This might sound crazy but give it a try before you dismiss it.

2. Meditation

In order to love yourself, but also to know yourself, it’s good to be able to have a bit of quiet time for the mind. Not only does this help your spiritual growth, which in turn helps with finding a soulmate, but also it allows you to get perspective, recognize any negative thoughts and generally be a happier person.

Try it even for 10 minutes a day for a week and I bet you’ll feel better.

3. Being open to new experiences

You can greatly improve your chances of meeting a soulmate by being open to new experiences and agreeing to do things that maybe you wouldn’t normally because it is out of your comfort zone, or you feel too busy or whatever.

Did you ever see that film with Jim Carey called Yes Man?  Carey is depressed and goes on a course where he gets advised that to improve his life, he has to say yes to everything. This leads to some rather funny results, but the message is great and it opens up so many opportunities in his life and brings him happiness, and you can do the same.

I highly recommend you check out this movie as it is very inspirational and helped to change my life!

4. Psychic advice – Can it help you find your soulmate?

While sometimes I don’t want to know the future as I like surprises, other times psychic advice has really helped me in my search for that soulmate. When I was 14 years old a psychic correctly predicted I was about to meet a soul mate, which I shortly did, and we were together for five years.

More recently I realized I had feelings for my best friend but there were some other things holding me back and I needed some reassurance or otherwise.

I recently got a psychic email reading from Jaclyn of PsychicOz which I was impressed with as she gave me validation by correctly describing the nature of our relationship, helped me get insights into what was in his head, and correctly predicted the time frame in which we would get together.

I guess me and my boyfriend would have gotten together despite whatever had happened but getting the psychic reading helped me to have courage in my convictions. Here are some things to keep in mind:

• DO remember that a soulmate can be found in any place at any time
• DO try some of the tips I have given you for finding your soul mate
• DON’T let ideals of perfection get in the way of finding or recognizing your soulmate

Are you waiting for a soulmate or lover who hasn’t arrived yet?

If the answer is yes, then I strongly recommend getting a psychic love reading. Why? A psychic can tell you roughly when the next soulmate is about to enter your life and can give you an idea of what to look for.

A good reading is emotionally healing and can be so uplifting and inspiring that it gives you the confidence to find that special person. If the psychic can’t see a soul mate in the near future, then they can help you change your destiny by suggesting ways to help you find your soulmate – things to do, places to go, new things to try, colors to wear and more!

As with any new romance, the early days of a relationship can seem electric, impulsive, and exciting. Naturally, you want to do anything together, and almost everything your partner does will amaze you that little bit more. However, after the ‘honeymoon period,’ it may seem like that initial spark is fading. That’s only natural, but it isn’t a reason to become complacent with your partner. With the right choices—and with conscious decision-making—your relationship can continue to feel exceptional ten, thirty, or fifty years down the line.

Read on to discover eight significant ways to ensure your romance lasts a lifetime:

1.  Date nights, date lunches, and date hours

You may have conflicting schedules, be short on time or patience, but thankfully there are ways to continue ‘dating’ each other years or even decades into your relationship. No, this doesn’t mean you need a regular ‘date night’ because life may get in your way. What it does mean is that you should dedicate time to one another whenever possible. Go shopping together. Meet up on your lunch break. Have Saturday morning brunch and then go for a walk. Whatever it takes, take brief pauses from your schedules to ensure you’re getting face time. Prioritize having an honest-to-goodness conversation about irrelevant things, and the romance will resurface pretty quickly!

2. Laugh together

It’s fair to say that you know your partner almost as well as you know yourself, so you likely know what it takes to make them laugh. So stay in touch with their happiness by lightening the mood at least once per day or just doing something to make them smile. As the adage goes, laughter typically is the best medicine.

3. Reminisce

As mentioned earlier, it can be challenging to find time to ‘date’ your partner when you’re so far into your relationship. So, be sure to remind your partner you value all the things they’ve done for you in the past—even if it’s just something along the lines of dinners you enjoyed together in the old days. Reminding them will make your partner feel good about themselves and reinforce that your relationship has an unshakeable foundation, even from the start.

4. Praise them whenever possible

Sure, overdoing praise may make it feel cheap. Still, remind your partner as often as possible about the aspects you like about them, even if it’s as simple as how great they look in a particular shirt or if their eyes look extra brilliant in a given moment.

5. Enjoy solo time with the in-laws

Families can be complicated. Friends can be temperamental. These are facts of life and are especially true when they are not your friends or family. Yes, your partner’s uncle might be a bit too controversial at times, and their best friend might be a drunken liability. Nevertheless, your partner sees past their flaws, and it will make them happy if you can too.

Be personable with your partner’s social circles. Ask how they are doing. Smile during conversations with them. Listen when they talk to you. If your partner feels as though you and their parents can co-mingle without any hassle, that makes their life much easier and makes everyone feel closer to one another.

6. Stop; don’t speak

You want the best for your partner, but sometimes it’s tricky to know when you’re doing more harm than good. Your partner is an intelligent person, so they are probably aware of some solutions to their problems. If they come home and need to rant, let them rant; make a mental note of a solution to recommend later, but for the time being, let them know they are being heard. It can make a world of difference.

7. Don’t forget to touch

We aren’t encouraging PDA in the middle of the street, but it is worth noting that touching your loved one releases oxytocin, otherwise known as the ‘happy hormone.’ Touch their cheek. Touch their arm. Brief tiny caresses against their skin may improve your partner’s mood and show them that you love them.

8. Improve yourself and commit to self-growth

Once again, it is worth stating that you shouldn’t be complacent in your relationship. Yes, spending time on your hobbies is good for your mental health, as is hanging out in your social circles. But even if you’re married with kids, self-improvement is a great way to impress them. Getting better at things and learning new facts will keep your partner on their toes, constantly surprised by your willingness to apply yourself to novel things or experiences.

No matter what stage your romance is in, it is crucial to keep your passion as electric, impulsive, and exciting as the first days of your relationship. By being mindful of your actions, you can continue to “date” years after you have committed yourself to one another. Together you can explore, have fun, and grow with one another for decades to come.

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Relationships always take their own unique situation and substance. Some results in lifelong partnerships while others devolve into name-calling and bitter separation. Three different types of love exist: twin flame, karmic, and soul mate. Which category best describes your relationship?

Karmic Love: A Lesson Learned

Your karmic love exists to teach you a lesson. Maybe you repeat negative patterns in relationships, for instance, or perhaps the universe wants you to develop more compassion, trust, or joy. This love comes into your life for a specific purpose and exits in the relationship when your psychic wounds heal.

Soul Mate Love: Your Perfect Match

Think of your soul mate as your better half. You might not share a single quality in common, but you fit together like puzzle pieces. People often marry their soul mates because they can’t imagine a life without one another. You’re inextricably linked both emotionally and spiritually.

Twin Flame Love: Your Mirror Image

A twin flame might seem like a soul mate at first, but these loves typically prove to be extremely intense, then naturally fizzle out. Your twin serves as your mirror image: You have many qualities in common as well as a few complementary differences, and your whirlwind romance seems epic as it unfolds. Some people live their entire lives with their twin flames, but they’re just as likely to part ways when the romantic fire dies out.

Love Myths: There’s No Right Answer

Can you marry a karmic love? Of course. Does your soul mate have to represent a romantic partner? Not always. Talking with an online psychic can help you figure out what type of love you’re in. However, don’t assume that a category can define your relationship. Over time, its purpose will reveal itself.

Relationship Report Card: Where Do You Fall?

Think about the subtleties of your relationship, such as the following:

• Did you begin your relationship quickly and move forward faster than normal? You might have found your twin flame.
• Does your partner challenge you in unique ways and encourage your mental or spiritual growth? Perhaps he or she represents a karmic love.
• Can you tell your partner anything, without fear of judgment or resentment? That person might make excellent soul mate material.

Clairaudients can often provide guidance on romantic and platonic relationships. The more you understand your relationship, the easier it will become to define it.

Finding Your Bliss: What Love Do You Need?

Perhaps you’re searching for your soul mate, but you fall in love with a karmic love instead. The universe has sent you a message. Maybe you’re not ready for your soul mate yet. Embrace your relationships with your whole heart, then decide whether you’ve found your karmic, soul mate, or twin flame love.

Now that you’re more familiar with these types of love, you can evaluate your current relationship. Do you see a future together as soul mates? Do you continue to reunite with your twin flame? Or are you learning a valuable lesson? Knowing the answers can help you find a healthy, sustainable relationship.

Finally! You met a great person, and you feel that they may be the one but how can you really tell? Is it enough feeling to have your heart beating like crazy when you’re with the person?

There are some basic guidelines that you can follow in order to determine if you should continue on a path with them, or if you should let them go.

1 – They’re Willing to Meet in Person (when it feels right).

This may seem obvious but with today’s forms of dating such as apps, social media and general internet communication methods, meeting in person seems to often get put to the side and worse, used as an excuse not to meet in person within a reasonable period of time.

If someone is truly into you, they will not only want to see you but they will not be able to wait too long to do so. Granted, sometimes distance or finances can hold up the process of meeting in person but when someone wants to accomplish something, they won’t allow things to stand in the way forever.

Be smart about meeting in person.  Make sure you are meeting when it feels right and ALWAYS meet in a public location the first time!  If someone new is TOO aggressive about meeting in person, they might not be all they claim to be on-line.  Make sure that you are being safe and that you are being careful for who you meet.

2 – They’re Responsive.

Do you often feel you might be too needy or have too high of expectations? When both people are excited about the other, then there is no such thing as “too” needy, or “too” high of expectations. Both people will enjoy talking to the other, respond to texts, e-mails, and return phone calls (people still do talk on the phone these days, right?)

Unless you are expecting the other person to check in with you every time they make a move, you are not being “too” anything and should be getting communication not only in return, but the other person should be initiating as well (see #5 below for more on that.) 
3 – They’re Consistent.

If he or she is truly the one, then they should be consistent with their communication. Long breaks in speaking, e-mails, or texts is a bad sign, regardless of their reason. We make time in our day for the things and people important to us and there is no excuse for a long absence in communication. Give them the benefit of the doubt if it happens once, but if you sense a pattern, it is likely a behavior that is not going to change or improve.

4 – They Show Respect.

The way in which a person talks to you speaks volumes! Whether you communicate in person or other means you should be shown respect and consideration of your feelings and thoughts. Just as you should be mindful of their time allowed for communication and keep expectations reasonable, they too should be considerate of your need for communication.

5 – They Initiate Communication.

When someone is truly into you, they will make the effort and take time to reach out to you. You should never be the one doing all of the work in a relationship. When someone is into you, they will initiate communication, arrange dates, and ask for time with you.

Be sure that you allow them time to do so and are not overly aggressive or you could end up feeling they fail to initiate when you are not allowing them a chance to initiate first.  Find that healthy middle ground!

The key to knowing if someone is truly the one is BALANCE.

Both people should equally be doing their share of the work in building a healthy relationship and no one should ever feel an absence of the other reaching out or being present. Keep a balance in your life and have fun finding the perfect partner.

Have you ever said to yourself, “This year I want to do things differently.  I want things to change.  I want clarity and love?” If this sounds like you, do you know how to go about finding what you want?

Clarity is valuable

Although the world has created a familiarity with the greater universe and it’s powers, this familiarity has led to a gross misrepresentation of the Law of Attraction.  One of the most basic steps of manifesting what you want is clarity.   Clarity in this case means knowing exactly what you want.

If you don’t have clarity, you may not be able to focus on what you truly want and need. If you focus on the wrong thing, you will receive the wrong thing. Make sure that you have clarity in all things in your life, but especially in love.

Creating clarity

A good way to gain clarity is to write a letter to your spirit guide.  It is entirely up to you who you choose. Make sure the letter is sincerely written. Write as if you are already in the relationship.  Be as descriptive as possible as you experience the romance with every one of your senses.

Next describe your feelings.  Are you happy? Do you feel free? Do you feel joy?  Create a thorough picture. No one will ever see this but you, so don’t hold back.

Once you have written your letter, read it out loud to yourself every night before you go to sleep and then visualize the person you want to be with in the morning. Don’t get too caught up in physical details of your romantic partner. Instead focus on how the person makes you feel.

It is important that you write down the things that you love and value and what you really want when you are looking for love. Beyond the physical, find the personality traits and the things that you want but don’t forget the things that you don’t want in your life. For example, if you don’t want to be with someone that smokes, make sure that you put that in your letter so that the universe is clear in what you want and need.

The next step

Ask yourself what is holding you back from getting what you want. To streamline this process, focus on what you believe is holding you back.  This will involve some self-examination and/or meditation to get to the root of what you really want and need. Once you have identified your blocks and asked the universe you can attract what you desire.  You may want to consult an advisor or life coach to help you get to what you truly want and need.

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Let’s accept the fact that we all want and need love. We can survive on food and water, but we thrive on human connection, some might deny it due to failed relationships or being afraid to get hurt but secretly wanting it in the core of their life. Intimacy nourishes us on a spiritual level through intellectual stimulation, mutual emotional understanding, and physical touch.

A healthy relationship provides shelter as well because we feel at home in the presence of someone we trust. Also, we feel a “knowingness” that we are with someone who knows and understands us at our core. Seeking out a soulmate partnership will certainly satisfy your physical and emotional desires. Moreover, it will allow you to enter a state of deep spiritual fulfillment and a wholeness of being.

Soulmate Defined

Let me explain what I mean by the term “soulmate.” You walk your own unique and individual path. No one but you can carve this path. A soulmate may show up on your path as a friend, a short-lived romance, or a lifelong partnership.

How can you tell which is which? The archetypes of the major arcana in the ancient Tarot teach us all the ways we can come together, learn from one another, and ultimately surrender into greater self-awareness. Below I have outlined the four types of soulmate partnerships. Which one do you need in your life right now?

1. The Power Duo: Love at First Premonition
   The Magician and High Priestess together define the Law of Attraction where dreams really do come true! When you align your inner power with nature, possibility surrounds you. Your will and determination will drive you while your intuition and sensibility will guide you. This partnership represents “flow” in that empathic way when you both know what the other thinks and feels and you can respond in ways that support one another.

These two typically meet during life transitions. Both partners understand that change needs to happen. They fearlessly dive headfirst into the ocean of their dreams, often surprised at finding each other when they come up for air.

This is a love that lasts, and it occurs when you least expect it. These two inspire others to never give up on finding someone that will have your best interest at heart. These two both want the same thing out of life. They will not hesitate to go out and get it, all the while helping the other attain their desires. One without the other cannot seem to get their vision to take off. But together, with an unstoppable force and an unbreakable bond, fantasy can become reality. They build one another’s confidence because they see the world and each other as expansive.

2. The Past Life Connection: Love at First Memory
   The Emperor and Empress have a familiar past life connection. Also known as the mother and Father, they meet in a synchronistic way. Unavoidable coincidences and divine intervention play a huge role. You literally cannot miss one another when your paths are meant to cross. It just keeps happening over and over again. The universe will tell you in not-so-subtle ways that you better pay some attention to this one!

Upon meeting, whether in childhood or well into old age, there is an undeniable Deja vu sensation. This familiarity and almost immediate comfort allows this couple to stay united no matter how much time and distance try to keep them apart. When they reconnect after a separation, whether long or short in duration, they pick up the conversation and passion as if no time passed at all.

This couple craves a simple and meaningful life. They build a home and create a family. Cooking and gardening and enjoying all that life has to offer together brings them joy. They see their place in the world as secondary to their union and while ambitions are important, they value togetherness above all.

3. Mirrored Reflection: Love at First Glance
   Most often referred to as the twin flame, the Lovers, unlike the other examples, is but one single card. Two beings connect to become one, thus creating an intensely passionate union. Those who fall in love in this way often describe an overwhelming, almost intoxicating, sense of seeing themselves or even the face of the divine in the eyes of their beloved.

The Lovers encounter one another during times of spiritual crisis, battles with addiction/recovery, and following periods of loss or brushes with mortality. We seek out those who can bear to see us at our most vulnerable and we long to know ourselves at depths that often remain untouched in day-to-day living.

The risk of conflict and enmeshment runs high with the Lovers because this couple can easily lose themselves in the relationship. One or both partners can become swallowed up by obsession and the loss of independence eventually causes a dissolution. Loving from the spirit is the lesson of the Lovers and while this partnership tends toward the unhealthy and codependent, in the long run it can be the greatest teacher of all the soulmate connections.

4. The Magnetism: Love at First Illumination
   The epitome of “opposites attract,” the Sun and the Moon are drawn to both the light and the shadows within one another. The Moon unveils his or her dark truth in the light of the Sun. The Sun has no judgment—only compassion and acceptance—and the Moon finally knows freedom in the Sun’s loving embrace.

A rendezvous between the Sun and the Moon feels a lot like the relationship between a superhero and a villain at first. They complement one another but there is no denying a bold edginess and rebellious quality when this couple enters the room. They learn quickly that speaking the truth reigns supreme in this cosmic connection. Both partners not only make peace with their darker sides through their mutual understanding, but they bring them out to play with one another. They simply get each other in a way that nobody else does and in this way, unconditional love, and acceptance lead to liberation in their devotion to each other.

Love Completely and Surrender Fully

While you may find all of these qualities present in your current relationship, ask yourself which one resonates most powerfully with you right now, and focus on the gifts it has to offer in the here and now. Inevitably, we all shift and change. You will find that some relationships appear and disappear quickly, while other foundational partnerships stay strong through the thick and thin.

The biggest mystery of the soulmate vibe is that it shows up and exits when the time is right, reminding us how deeply interconnected we all are and just how invested your spirit is in bringing you towards your highest good. Trust the path you choose and do not fear making choices that ultimately serve you! May you continue to receive all the love and support you need.