Have you ever said to yourself, “This year I want to do things differently.  I want things to change.  I want clarity and love?” If this sounds like you, do you know how to go about finding what you want?

Clarity is valuable

Although the world has created a familiarity with the greater universe and it’s powers, this familiarity has led to a gross misrepresentation of the Law of Attraction.  One of the most basic steps of manifesting what you want is clarity.   Clarity in this case means knowing exactly what you want.

If you don’t have clarity, you may not be able to focus on what you truly want and need. If you focus on the wrong thing, you will receive the wrong thing. Make sure that you have clarity in all things in your life, but especially in love.

Creating clarity

A good way to gain clarity is to write a letter to your spirit guide.  It is entirely up to you who you choose. Make sure the letter is sincerely written. Write as if you are already in the relationship.  Be as descriptive as possible as you experience the romance with every one of your senses.

Next describe your feelings.  Are you happy? Do you feel free? Do you feel joy?  Create a thorough picture. No one will ever see this but you, so don’t hold back.

Once you have written your letter, read it out loud to yourself every night before you go to sleep and then visualize the person you want to be with in the morning. Don’t get too caught up in physical details of your romantic partner. Instead focus on how the person makes you feel.

It is important that you write down the things that you love and value and what you really want when you are looking for love. Beyond the physical, find the personality traits and the things that you want but don’t forget the things that you don’t want in your life. For example, if you don’t want to be with someone that smokes, make sure that you put that in your letter so that the universe is clear in what you want and need.

The next step

Ask yourself what is holding you back from getting what you want. To streamline this process, focus on what you believe is holding you back.  This will involve some self-examination and/or meditation to get to the root of what you really want and need. Once you have identified your blocks and asked the universe you can attract what you desire.  You may want to consult an advisor or life coach to help you get to what you truly want and need.

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Let’s accept the fact that we all want and need love. We can survive on food and water, but we thrive on human connection, some might deny it due to failed relationships or being afraid to get hurt but secretly wanting it in the core of their life. Intimacy nourishes us on a spiritual level through intellectual stimulation, mutual emotional understanding, and physical touch.

A healthy relationship provides shelter as well because we feel at home in the presence of someone we trust. Also, we feel a “knowingness” that we are with someone who knows and understands us at our core. Seeking out a soulmate partnership will certainly satisfy your physical and emotional desires. Moreover, it will allow you to enter a state of deep spiritual fulfillment and a wholeness of being.

Soulmate Defined

Let me explain what I mean by the term “soulmate.” You walk your own unique and individual path. No one but you can carve this path. A soulmate may show up on your path as a friend, a short-lived romance, or a lifelong partnership.

How can you tell which is which? The archetypes of the major arcana in the ancient Tarot teach us all the ways we can come together, learn from one another, and ultimately surrender into greater self-awareness. Below I have outlined the four types of soulmate partnerships. Which one do you need in your life right now?

1. The Power Duo: Love at First Premonition
   The Magician and High Priestess together define the Law of Attraction where dreams really do come true! When you align your inner power with nature, possibility surrounds you. Your will and determination will drive you while your intuition and sensibility will guide you. This partnership represents “flow” in that empathic way when you both know what the other thinks and feels and you can respond in ways that support one another.

These two typically meet during life transitions. Both partners understand that change needs to happen. They fearlessly dive headfirst into the ocean of their dreams, often surprised at finding each other when they come up for air.

This is a love that lasts, and it occurs when you least expect it. These two inspire others to never give up on finding someone that will have your best interest at heart. These two both want the same thing out of life. They will not hesitate to go out and get it, all the while helping the other attain their desires. One without the other cannot seem to get their vision to take off. But together, with an unstoppable force and an unbreakable bond, fantasy can become reality. They build one another’s confidence because they see the world and each other as expansive.

2. The Past Life Connection: Love at First Memory
   The Emperor and Empress have a familiar past life connection. Also known as the mother and Father, they meet in a synchronistic way. Unavoidable coincidences and divine intervention play a huge role. You literally cannot miss one another when your paths are meant to cross. It just keeps happening over and over again. The universe will tell you in not-so-subtle ways that you better pay some attention to this one!

Upon meeting, whether in childhood or well into old age, there is an undeniable Deja vu sensation. This familiarity and almost immediate comfort allows this couple to stay united no matter how much time and distance try to keep them apart. When they reconnect after a separation, whether long or short in duration, they pick up the conversation and passion as if no time passed at all.

This couple craves a simple and meaningful life. They build a home and create a family. Cooking and gardening and enjoying all that life has to offer together brings them joy. They see their place in the world as secondary to their union and while ambitions are important, they value togetherness above all.

3. Mirrored Reflection: Love at First Glance
   Most often referred to as the twin flame, the Lovers, unlike the other examples, is but one single card. Two beings connect to become one, thus creating an intensely passionate union. Those who fall in love in this way often describe an overwhelming, almost intoxicating, sense of seeing themselves or even the face of the divine in the eyes of their beloved.

The Lovers encounter one another during times of spiritual crisis, battles with addiction/recovery, and following periods of loss or brushes with mortality. We seek out those who can bear to see us at our most vulnerable and we long to know ourselves at depths that often remain untouched in day-to-day living.

The risk of conflict and enmeshment runs high with the Lovers because this couple can easily lose themselves in the relationship. One or both partners can become swallowed up by obsession and the loss of independence eventually causes a dissolution. Loving from the spirit is the lesson of the Lovers and while this partnership tends toward the unhealthy and codependent, in the long run it can be the greatest teacher of all the soulmate connections.

4. The Magnetism: Love at First Illumination
   The epitome of “opposites attract,” the Sun and the Moon are drawn to both the light and the shadows within one another. The Moon unveils his or her dark truth in the light of the Sun. The Sun has no judgment—only compassion and acceptance—and the Moon finally knows freedom in the Sun’s loving embrace.

A rendezvous between the Sun and the Moon feels a lot like the relationship between a superhero and a villain at first. They complement one another but there is no denying a bold edginess and rebellious quality when this couple enters the room. They learn quickly that speaking the truth reigns supreme in this cosmic connection. Both partners not only make peace with their darker sides through their mutual understanding, but they bring them out to play with one another. They simply get each other in a way that nobody else does and in this way, unconditional love, and acceptance lead to liberation in their devotion to each other.

Love Completely and Surrender Fully

While you may find all of these qualities present in your current relationship, ask yourself which one resonates most powerfully with you right now, and focus on the gifts it has to offer in the here and now. Inevitably, we all shift and change. You will find that some relationships appear and disappear quickly, while other foundational partnerships stay strong through the thick and thin.

The biggest mystery of the soulmate vibe is that it shows up and exits when the time is right, reminding us how deeply interconnected we all are and just how invested your spirit is in bringing you towards your highest good. Trust the path you choose and do not fear making choices that ultimately serve you! May you continue to receive all the love and support you need.

A lot of men want to be needed by a woman, but a needy woman will send any man running for the hills. There are some women who need a lot of care and attention. They want to hear from the man several times a day which is annoying, and they need constant validation from him. They also need flowers and gifts very often.

There is nothing wrong with needing or wanting attention, however a needy woman yearns for it in excess. Some women have the belief that being in a relationship requires a lot of sentimental attention all the time, all day, every day.

If a woman finds herself getting sad often because the man in her life is not giving her constant attention, she is a needy woman and a drain to any man she has in her life.

There are underlining factors behind that neediness and how the man interprets it is far different from the woman who is being needy. To understand how a man translates the actions of a needy woman read on.

The 3 Tips in Which a Man Interprets a Needy Woman

Why Men Are Afraid of Needy Women Tip#1

We all seek and need positive validation from our partners. We want to know that we are admired, loved, and supported. However, if your man needs to tell you that you are beautiful everyday this could become an issue.

Beneath the surface, what the man hears from you is that you don’t feel good enough about yourself. He will soon enough begin to question himself for being with you in the first place. He will wonder why he finds you attractive if you don’t find yourself attractive.

He will hear you complain about your flaws, and they will become large in his mind. He may even see those flaws that you have pointed out as a reason to leave you. He may never have seen them as flaws before you insisted on them being there.

Men don’t focus on the tiny details that women focus on. They often see the total picture and the total picture as a woman who needs constant validation, is what the picture is painting for him and that she is not attractive enough.

Why Men Are Afraid of Needy Women Tip#2

A woman who needs lots of gifts and surprises to feel validated can drain a man’s pocket. It can also drain a man vision of himself, he can be pushed into low self-worth. In his mind he will begin to wonder if he is ever enough. He will wonder if he is appreciated only for what he can give. He will also wonder if he can fulfill her constant needs.

The more she wants, the more drained he feels and the further away he will move until he is out of her life completely. If a man loves and appreciates a woman, he will be enjoy giving to her but once again there are boundaries. If there is no moderation on the part of the woman, he will soon feel used.

Why Men Are Afraid of Needy Women Tip#3

Sometimes a man may want the company of a woman, but he cannot give her 100% of himself. No matter how much he loves and adores her he may have many things going on in his life as well as in his head. He may need time to sort out himself all while getting to know that woman.

When he encounters a woman who needs lots and lots of his time, whether in person or on the phone this can burden his energy. It can lead him to feel tired instead of energized. No matter how beautiful the woman, he will no longer see it. Instead, he will feel mentally and physically exhausted.

You can’t convince a person to stay around the person or thing that is making them weak, tired, and sad. Everyone is in a different space. Some people have so much going on in their life that they cannot give 100% of themselves to any one thing or any one person even if they wanted to.

It’s important that you take time to observe that man. What is he going though in his life? Where does he place all of his energy? Don’t ever expect anyone to give more of themselves than they have to give.

Creating Balance…

A seductress has to be full of her own energy. She has to feel good about herself, no matter if she is tall, short, fat, thin, cute, or not. Feeling good and full of your own goodness will always be more alluring than if you are seeking to gain all of your energy from someone else.

Do whatever you can to build yourself fast. Learn to love the body that you are in and all of your many quirky ways. Those unique ways may very well be the quality that someone else is looking for. Always have a good support system of friends as well as activities that can fill you up.

Your partner should be someone whom you share your experiences with, not someone you use in order to make yourself whole. If you rely on your partner to be your everything, you are then being a serious drain or in other terms a psychic vampire.

Neediness has a terrible, draining feeling on the people who are around a needy person. It’s not fun and it’s easy to move away from a needy person. Even if a man loves to give eventually, he will feel drained then bored of any woman whose needs are greater than his own. So, there you have it, the 3 reasons why men are afraid of needy women.

Love is something that everyone seek whether they admit it or not. It is probably the most desired feeling that every one of us wants to experience. Finding the right partner can be more than daunting to find your business’s potential partners and life mates. But no worries! Though this is not an easy mission, there are ways to know which partners are best for you and which ones are not.

Attraction

Attraction is probably the most important step within this partner-seeking process. You must be attracted to each other. Do not waste your time and energy on someone who does not have the same reciprocal attraction to you. They will likely not change their mind and you can’t do anything about it. Instead, focus on developing a relationship with someone who shares an attraction with you.

It is not only about outer appearance. Actually, it is much better if the attraction is felt for character features. Perhaps it is the way they see the world around them, or their perspectives on life. Perhaps you are attracted to them because they have bright shiny lights when they do what they love, or when they look at you. This feeling is real because it comes from heart. So, NEVER push yourself to feel attraction to anyone. It should happen naturally to identify which one is your right partner.

Relation

Relation is something that is strongly attached to attraction. When two people have a connection, it is a very unique experience. Usually, there will be a sort of chemistry between the couple that cannot be explained. There could be an extraordinary understanding of your partner’s ideas and opinions. You may know their reaction before they react. You will share same feelings towards almost everything and you always have something in common.

You don’t have to have the same interests, however, there will be much similarity between you and your partner. Having at least a couple of interests you can explore together will strengthen the relationship and make it more interesting. However, you should make sure that your partner has other interests, and that you two can share and talk freely about them.

Personal Characteristics

Personal characteristics are the most important component in any potential partner. You must be able to adapt with them as a human. It’s very healthy to have similar personal features. While it’s said, “opposites attract”, in the long term it is better to have a partnership with someone who parallels who you are. For example, it’s difficult for someone who is emotionally distant, rather dry-witted, and sarcastic individual to keep a strong and healthy relationship with a hypersensitive, emotionally needy, and idealistic person.  Considering the personality type is absolutely important when finding the right partner.

Teamwork!

It’s extremely important for any couple to work as one TEAM WORK! That means when someone is weak the other one is strong enough to help their partner, and vice versa. For example, when one is great at finance and the other struggles in finance, or when one is great at expressing themselves while their partner has a communication problem, their partner helps by supporting them and raising their partner’s capabilities in such areas. Supporting and completing each other is what any successful and happy couple needs on a regular basis.

Know Yourself!

The better you know yourself and your needs, the quicker you find your partner. You must use self-discovery mechanisms to identify the priorities you are looking for in a life partner. You need to understand who you are and what you want in order to understand what or who you need. Accordingly, you can use these tips to figure out who is right for you. There is no one right partner that fits everyone. The right partner is someone who fits into your life without much effort. Someone who is exactly what you need, but who also understands that you both should strive to survive as a couple.

Find Each Other

How do you find the right partner? Be honest with yourself and others, express your truest self to your fullest extent, and open up your heart to find someone you can share your life with. It’s as simple as that! This way you will be led to the right partner (or they will be led to you) as long as you open yourself up to find them.

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In this time of year, everyone’s got love on the brain—even if they don’t mean to because it’s a love month, right? You can’t walk into your local drug store without seeing the displays of heart-shaped candies and red-and-pink gifts. No matter your feelings about Valentine’s Day, however, this season of love can be a great time to focus on your romance-related goals and start visualizing the relationship you really want.

Design Your Love Life

Whether you’re single and looking for the perfect partner, or attached and hoping to rekindle the magic, making a love vision board is a helpful way to manifest whatever you want in the love department.

Here’s how to create one that’s tailored to your goals:

1. Choose the Right Location
   Before you can make a love vision board, you should decide where yours will live in your home. Depending on how private you’d like it to be, your board could be a page in your journal, a large display in your living room or even a whole wall in your bedroom. Think about where it will best serve you. Would you like to revisit it each night as you write down your thoughts on the day? Or would you like to see it every time you walk through your home to remind yourself of your romantic dreams?
2. Meditate on Your Desires
   The next step is to think about the goals you want to manifest. To do that, take five or 10 minutes to sit with yourself without distractions. Simply close your eyes and sit on the floor. Or write down your thoughts as a stream of consciousness—whatever serves you best. Also envision the type of relationship you want and the qualities you’d like your ideal partner to have. If you’re already attached, ruminate on the best aspects of your partnership and how you’d like to grow together in the future.
3. Gather Imagery
   Now for the crafty part! Using old magazines, cards, letters, or any other material you’d like, start choosing photos, phrases and symbols that represent your vision of love. You certainly don’t have to be a Martha Stewart-type to create something awesome—you just have to stay true to what you want to manifest. It doesn’t matter so much what your vision board looks like. What matters is what your board represents and that it also reflects what your heart desires.
4. Set Time Aside for Creation
   When you’re ready to put the images on the board, make sure you’re in a good space for doing so. Put on music that matches the mood of your board. Maybe also light a candle and give yourself time to freely create. This project isn’t one that you should relegate to doing while you’re watching trashy TV or if you only have 10 minutes to spare. You want to give it the time and attention it deserves. Make love a priority and you’ll soon reap the benefits.
5. Check in With Your Board Daily
   Revisit your vision board in order to stay on track with your love goals. Take a moment each day to look at the words and pictures you’ve collected and keep your wants and needs for romance in the forefront of your mind. As you continue to think about your vision for the future, you’ll be able to effectively will it to happen in your life. The power of manifestation is very real, and very potent, especially when it comes to love.

Finding a soulmate is difficult and that’s because while it is easy to connect with others on a sexual or superficial level, it is more difficult to connect with someone’s mind, body, and spirit. That’s what a soulmate connection truly is and that’s what everyone is wishing to have. If you’ve been with someone for a while, you may be wondering how to tell if they are your true love. Here are eight signs that prove if they are or not.

1. They’re Reliable and Trustworthy
   Trust and reliability are two of the most important qualities a soulmate should have. If you ask them to run an errand for you, will they, do it? If they have coffee with an old flame, can you trust them to keep the boundaries platonic? Without trust and reliability in your relationship, you’ll have many fights coming your way while you’re together.
2. They Open You Up to New Possibilities
   Whether it’s the best qualities you didn’t know you possessed, or new experiences you never thought possible, your soulmate will expose you to a new side of life and new ways of thinking. They will also help you generate more confidence in your abilities.
3. They Know How to Deal with Your Flaws
   We all have dark secrets, deep regrets, and shame. But a true soulmate will love you and accept you in spite of yours. You will feel comfortable opening up to them. If you can’t, they are not meant for you.
4. They’re All Love and Little (or No) Drama
   Soulmates support their partners through thick and thin, and if you’re with your true love, you’ll notice that your relationship has very little drama. Most of the drama comes from the outside. A soulmate is there to feed your soul, connect with it and make it happy.
5. They Fill in the Gaps
   In the past, a significant other was someone who was your better half. But that concept has evolved. Today, a true love is someone who fills in the gaps created by your struggles, including the emotional, mental, and physical issues you struggle with daily.
6. They Can Handle You at Your Worst
   When you’re at your worst, a soulmate is someone who is there to support you. That’s what separates a keeper from someone who isn’t worth your time. A soulmate provides the rational voice when you’re being irrational and calms you down when you are feeling agitated or anxious.
7. They Discuss Long-Term Relationship Goals
   A soulmate has plans for your future together. Whether it’s marriage, children or moving in together, they’re your soulmate if they intend to stick around for the long haul. Where will you be in five, 10 or 20 years? Your soulmate knows and wants to share it with you.
8. They Remember the Tiny Details
   A soulmate remembers the tiny details, from your mundane conversations to what you wore on your first date. It’s true love when they listen and remember. It means they’re invested and genuinely interested in what’s happening in your life and they definitely want to be a part of it.

If this article confirms you’re with your soulmate, congratulations, because love is all around you! If you’ve realized something is lacking in your love life, help is always available to you. Let’s talk through your relationship, together.

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than bread.” ~Mother Teresa

Indeed, it is true that a lot of people are starving for food but what hurts the most is when a person starve for love from someone they love so deeply. It’s heart crushing. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over four years. We’ve had our fair share of great times and not so pretty moments, but this summer our relationship was put to the test.

During that time, I went through some major transitions with my career and personal development, all things that needed to happen for me to be the best version of myself.

Those months were filled with long hours of working and being alone, solely focusing on creating the future I wanted. I was in deep, chasing my dreams, and wouldn’t let anything get in my way.

Here are some things that happened to me and him along the way:

• As time went on, I noticed that my partner was slowly slipping away.
• It wasn’t that he wasn’t coming home or was nowhere to be found. He was responding to the fact that I had lost focus on him.
• I was failing my partner in the following ways:
• I didn’t say thank you for all the little things he did for me.
• I didn’t ask him how his day was. Instead, I was eager to share how my day went.
• When I faced an obstacle with my goals, I would be rude and short with him.
• Instead of greeting him with a smile when he arrived home, I treated him as if he was a burden getting in the way of the work I needed to do.
• Rather than planning and spending time with him, I would work late into the evening.

Lastly, I wasn’t present with him. When I did spend time with him, all I did was think about work.

My actions and behaviors were so self-centered that I stopped thinking about how he was doing, how his day went, and what he needed support with.

The end result was that he withdrew from me.  Here is how this went:

• At first, I thought he was no longer interested in me, but I eventually came to realize that I wasn’t even close to meeting his needs. And what he needed was simple appreciation.
• He had hinted at it several times in his own way, but I’d had blinders on.
• After months of neglect, my boyfriend and I sat at our kitchen table making small talk and slowly tiptoeing into the conversation of what was and wasn’t working in our relationship.

He said, “All I ever want is for you to appreciate me. I don’t need you to cook for me or get all dressed up or buy me things. All I want is to be appreciated.”

His honest and vulnerable declaration brought me to tears. I realized then that I had been causing my partner significant pain and suffering for no reason.

So, with my heart on the table, my eyes swollen from crying, and a common ground of love to move forward on, I told him this: “From now on, I will appreciate you—the big, the small, the silly, and imperfect. I will appreciate it all. I may not be perfect in my practice of appreciation, but I am committed to it, so much so that I have added it to my morning routine.”

Much like the gratitude journal I write in every morning, I now have a journal dedicated solely to all the things I value about my partner.

Every morning I set aside time to think of three things I appreciate about him. I do this even when I’m not feeling up for it. I take my time and feel every emotion that comes up as I write down my list of three items.

I also make an effort so show my appreciation in action. My partner’s love language is “acts of service,” meaning actions speak louder than words. He feels loved when I do things for him coupled with expressing my feelings for him, so I now strive to show him that I love him with acts that require planning and thoughtfulness.

The Value of Appreciation

I never thought that simply reminding myself how much I appreciate my partner would cause a ripple effect in how I interact with him, but it has.

Since starting my appreciation practice…

I easily forgive his mistakes, such as forgetting to do something I ask him to do to support me, or not being sensitive enough and open to my feelings when I feel overwhelmed. I’ve grown to love his mistakes because they remind me of what it is to be imperfect. After all, I’m not perfect, and I can’t expect him to be either.

I appreciate his faults and quirks. Like hitting the snooze button when he needs to get out of bed. And forgetting to eat throughout the day because he’s too busy teaching college students. And running behind schedule most of the time. We all have faults. His reminds me all over again why I fell in love with him. In all reality, we complement each other nicely.

Here are some other things I deeply appreciate about my partner:

• I appreciate his smile and his one-of-a-kind laugh.

In recognizing all that my partner does for me and my future, I feel a love so powerful that just thinking about it brings me to tears. When I recognize what my partner does and when I recognize how he feels, this is what happens in the relationship:

• My partner feels appreciated and cared for. He is more eager to engage with me, and more willing to be open and expressive with me. And he talks about the future more than ever.

What Happens When You Don’t Appreciate the People in Your Life

When you don’t appreciate others, your relationships suffer in the following ways:

• The other person feels unimportant and may withdraw from you.
• When your partner feels unappreciated, any talks of the future will be met with resistance. Would you want to build a future with someone who doesn’t appreciate you?
• Animosity may build up in the relationship, on both sides.
• The person feeling unappreciated may find other places, things, or people to seek appreciation from.
• Being unappreciated can lead to unnecessary arguments and resentment.
• Lack of appreciation may completely ruin and end the relationship.

How to Start Appreciating the People in Your Life

If you’ve recognized that you could make a little more effort appreciating the people in your life, dedicate a notebook solely for this purpose. Start your day by jotting down three things you value about this person. At the end of thirty days, give them your notes of appreciation. Rinse and repeat.

But appreciation doesn’t just live within the mind. Sure, it’s wonderful to think about all the things you value about someone, but when you don’t vocalize or show your appreciation, it means nothing.

You can start appreciating others in your life by:

• Leaving them notes thanking them for who they are and what you appreciate about them.
• Saying thank you and acknowledging the little things they do every day.
• Giving specific examples of what they have done and how that has enhanced your own life.
• Appreciating their flaws and quirks. The little imperfections are what make people unique. They may feel insecure about them. Let them know how you appreciate their imperfections, and why.
• Giving someone a hug when they help you out or put a smile on your face.
• Doing something unexpected; brighten their day by buying them a cup of coffee or stopping by to let them know that you love them and appreciate them for being in your life.

Like Tony Robbins said, “Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole world changes in an instant.”

Appreciation strengthens the bonds you have with others, no matter the relationship. It replaces a mindset of not having enough with being grateful for everything you have. And most of all, it creates space to be thankful for the little things in life.

“When you’re in love, all that you can see is the greatest quality of the guy and yes! Maybe he’s that tall, dark, and handsome but then he’s the most selfish guy you have ever met. Would you stay? Of course, you will! Because you’re not aware how selfish they are.”

How do you define a really great sexual experience? Is it between two people who have an emotional and physical connection? Or is it uninhibited and a little bit dangerous? Is it shared by people who are equally interested in each other’s pleasure? However, you define great sex, you probably know what bad, unfulfilling sex feels like. Often that’s because you’re with a guy who’s a selfish lover. Are you wondering just how selfish he is?

Check out these nine behaviors and see how many apply to him:

1. He Always Expects You to Initiate
   He may say it’s because he never knows when you’re in the mood, but a good partner would be able to recognize the signs or know just what to do to get you in the mood. Part of being a selfish lover is being a lazy lover who never initiates sex.
2. You’re on Call
   A man is a selfish lover if he expects you to be on call, sexually. This means that he expects you to be ready for sex whenever he wants it. And if you don’t want it too, he tries to make you feel guilty about it.
3. He Only Likes One Position
   If you’re with a guy who’s only interested in one sexual position, his favorite, you are with a man who is selfish in bed. Sure, certain positions work better for some than others, but he should be interested in the positions you like, too.
4. He’s Only Nice When He Wants Some
   Have you ever been with a guy who acts like a total jerk, but somehow becomes a sweetheart when he wants sex? That’s pretty manipulative and it definitely means he’s a selfish lover. Relationships take work, but if he only puts in the effort when he wants sex, you need to move on.
5. He’s Inpatient When Your Body Doesn’t React as Expected
   Humans aren’t robots and that means your body won’t work the same all the time. When it comes to sex, your body may not always respond the same way, and that’s totally fine, except to a selfish lover. If your body isn’t doing what he thinks it should, he’ll respond with a bad attitude.
6. He Likes to Take Shortcuts
   There are many different ways to be pleased in bed, and it’s fun to incorporate new tricks and toys to spice things up. But if your partner is looking to use whatever hurries you along, he’s a selfish lover.
7. He Doesn’t Care About Your Orgasm
   If he’s using your body as a means to an end—his end—he’s a selfish lover. If he rolls over and falls asleep after his orgasm, without making sure you’ve had one too, you’ve guessed it, he’s a selfish lover.
8. He Likes to Put on a Show for Himself
   Have you ever been with a man who spends more time staring at his reflection in a mirror than looking into your eyes? Yes, he’s a selfish lover because he cares more about how he looks than how you feel.
9. It’s All Physical and Not Emotional
   The physical part of sex is easy—a selfish lover knows which parts go where. The emotional part is what’s challenging. If you’re looking for a purely physical relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. However, if you want that emotional connection during sex with your partner, and he’s not giving it to you, he’s selfish.

One big issue common to countless romantic relationships between men and women is, “Does he ever listen to me?”

It’s common for a wife to complain, “My husband never listens to me!” Or for a girlfriend to vent to her best friends, “My boyfriend never pays attention to what I tell him!” Or for an engaged woman, who’s been discussing wedding plans with her fiancé for months, to ask him a question about a detail they’d discussed earlier, and he has no clue what she’s asking about!

Did he listen to anything she said?

Here are seven common issues men may have when it comes to listening to their romantic partner, along with some easy pointers about how women can address these common issues.

She talks too much. Often, women have so much to say that the pertinent facts get lost in the details of the story. If a man has to listen to his girlfriend gush about that cute top she saw at the store, how her sister is expecting a baby, and that she had a rotten day at work just to find out what’s for dinner, he can be left completely overwhelmed by the end of the saga and wonder what just hit him.

So, try to keep it short. Don’t roam on about every little thing, especially if you’ve noticed that he has little interest in frivolous details.

He’s heard it all before. A man may think there’s nothing new to hear, so he automatically tunes out mid-sentence. According to him, it’s just old wine in a new bottle.

When you have to go into detail, try to make it interesting to him. Grab his attention with a new anecdote or a funny story he hasn’t heard before.

She’s nagging. One of the commonest complaints men have is that their partners nag them. Since they’re used to the general trend, they think there’s nothing different about what she’s going on about this time around.

Stop being predictable. Don’t get on him and nag about the same old stuff. If he hasn’t gotten the message by now, it’s time to change your stance or get him to move his butt by trying a new approach.

He doesn’t like to be controlled. Men feel that if they listen to a woman to follow her instructions, it’s a sign that he’s putty in her hands, and she’ll take undue advantage of the situation. Once he gives in to her demands, he’ll be her puppet on a string.

When you want him to listen and follow through on instructions, don’t order him around. Ask him nicely and check to see if he’s understanding what you’ve told him. Finally, act as if the ultimate decision rests with him.

There are more pressing matters. If a woman is trying to talk while a man is doing something he considers more important, like watching the end of a football game, the last thing he wants to do is turn off the TV and tune in to his partner.

Don’t even try talking to him when he’s got the TV on. Eliminate all distractions or wait until the game’s over before you start having your say.

He has a short attention span. Often, men can’t keep their focus on what a woman is saying for too long. They rarely have the patience to give a woman their listening ear.

So, when you’re talking, try and get him to maintain eye contact with you. That way, if his mind starts to go off on a rabbit trail, you’ll see it by the glazed or wandering look in his eyes. Call his attention back onto you before continuing.

The topic is of little interest to him. If she insists on raving to him about the designer watch her boss’ wife was sporting, or the chandelier earrings her friend’s rich boyfriend surprised her with, that may be something a man has little to no interest in hearing.

Stay alert and pause at suitable intervals to ensure you have his attention. Avoid monologues and give him a chance to have his say too. Actively seek his opinion and ask him for relevant feedback, so that you know he’s not just physically present while his mind is elsewhere.

These easy tips will make the common issues of men listening to women easy to address. They can help the woman he loves become the one he’ll always listen to even when he is busy with his own stuff.

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Something you should consider when you are wondering if you should give someone who has hurt you another chance is whether or not you have been given a second opportunity.

There are certain instances where second chances are not possible. There are also occasions when a second chance could and should be given.  Before you decide to completely move on, you should take a look at a few reasons to forgive.

Someone else is part of your decision

Think for a moment if you are at all being influenced by a third party who may want you to join them in their situation.  If there is someone in your life who is trying desperately to help you sever ties, they may have an ulterior motive.

You may have given up too quickly

Examine the relationship. Did things just get rough or did something major happen? Sometimes it easier to just walk away rather than iron out the rough spots.  Before you move on, take a minute to see if things can be repaired by a second chance.

Apologies were given.

You know what a sincere apology is.  If you have received one of these and it makes note of the specific offense and how it affected you, then the person involved wants to make amends. This type of sincerity deserves a second chance.

You were also in the wrong

It is entirely possible that you were not completely innocent in the events.   If you said or didn’t say something that ended the relationship, it is possible that you both need and deserve a second chance.  If both parties agree, you can apologize and move on.

There are strong feelings involved. 

Sometimes when a relationship comes to an end, the feelings just don’t disappear.  If, after a significant amount of time passes and you still have these feelings, you may want to consider giving a second chance. Just be sure that these feelings are healthy.

Is change possible or probable?

How likely is it that the person will change or want to fix things? Will they be willing or able to make the kind of improvement that will work in your relationships favor? If so, a second chance is warranted.

There were circumstances working against their favor

We all know that life can get in the way. Sometimes problems such as family and finances can wear down both parties and one decides to walk away.  If the problems involved survival and unforeseen challenges, they may need and deserve a second chance.

Children are involved

Sometimes there are some relationships that you can’t just let dissolve. This is usually because children are a factor.  As you know, every parent’s decision affects the children.  This means that the relationship between the parents should be taken into considerations. If this relationship has dwindled, an effort should be made to give a second chance or at least repair the situation.

Life is far too short to simply move away from a quality relationship because a wrong has been done. If there is any way to forgive and move on, you should consider giving it a try.  If there is truly a meeting of the minds and genuine feeling, you should give a second chance.