When a Relationship Comes to an End

When a Relationship Comes to an End

Every time that a relationship ends, there will be that nagging question, “What did I do wrong?” The curiosity about the causes for a break up and the assumptions can create as much heartbreak as the actual split. The desire to find answers becomes an irresistible quest.

Obviously, there are times when someone did do something wrong, and the answer can be clear cut. There are also situations that make a relationship breakup impossible to understand.

It’s Not You, It’s Me

An often-used explanation for a relationship failure is the line, “It’s not you, it’s me,” or the equally banal “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” Neither say much. The “what” and “whys” of the breakup still remain a mystery.

The reality is that in some cases people realize their needs have changed. If you both agree to monogamy, and one firmly decides they want an open situation, failure is just around the corner.

If you start dating and one wants marriage and the other not, eventually, if no one has a change of mind, someone has to say goodbye.  After years of being together, some couples conclude that their marriage had a beginning and an end. It is not necessarily true that anyone is at fault, it’s just a case of changing wants and needs.

Time Can Bring You Together… or Tear You Apart

Different interests, belief systems or passions can turn compatible people into strangers. If your differences are at odds with each other, that can undo the bonds of love.

When love starts, a number of things can change and, in that change, that flurry of passion can simply fade away. There is no one to blame and this is one of those cases where desire was gone.

The love that seems so good at age twenty may not look so good at forty. Time can bring couples together, but it can also tear them apart. Love sometimes just seems to grow cold as time moves on and sometimes this is something that the person cannot even explain.

Change, age, and interests can divide couples that have been together for short or long periods of time. The nature of a relationship can be complex. It can be so hard to understand that the reasons for parting a relationship that it may require a course in psychology in order to fully comprehend the details.

Relationships sometimes start strong, but they end very weak due to different reasons that life brings us. When these changes happen, love can fade, and it is often times not the fault of either partner. Changes in love is something that happens to some while others stay in love for what seems like forever.

It is understandable that when love dies answers are needed. We want to learn and grow from the past. The problem is that you may end up of blaming yourself for something that is not your fault.