Does the excitement slowly drifting away in the relationship? I know that most of the people will reminisce the time where you and your partner first met and did things together that was probably very romantic and impulsive. During that exciting and memorable time of courtship, having someone you admired to notice and care about you must have been a true thrill. However as time passes the excitement may fade away if you do not decide that caring for your partner should be an essential part of your daily routine. How can you keep your marriage or relationship joyful and overall satisfying through the years? Is it even possible to keep love and romance alive in your marriage after 10, 20 or more years spent together? The answer is yes, but only with a conscious effort from both sides.
Let me share with you some tips which can greatly contribute to having a fulfilling relationship.
Even if you are very busy taking care of your children and a time consuming job you can take advantages of the simplest moments when you two are together.
It may not be the most romantic of settings but you can focus on each other, talk without interruption and really enjoy being together even while you are doing your weekly shopping. Naturally you have to have playful relationship to think such action can also be fun, but it is definitely worth a try!
2, Make your partner laugh.
After plenty of years together you know your partner very well use that knowledge for good. You can easily push their buttons and enrage them or you can lighten the mood, make a funny face, exaggerate a small issue and laugh together.
Rather than bringing up the past in a wistful sense, express your appreciation for all the ways that your spouse had helped you.
For example, you could say something like, “I was just thinking about that romantic dinner you planned by the fireplace on our third date. That was really wonderful.” It’s both an ego boost for him and it shows that you value his best efforts.
4, Praise your partner
Praise is such a great gift, and it’s so easy to give. Find the things that make your spouse and others unique and develop the habit of praising them for those special things.
Plan occasional group outings so that you can all get to know each other better. When you get on well with each other’s social circles, it enhances a very important facet of your union. Although it can be hard sometimes to accept your partner’s family and friends completely, make an effort and give compliments, ask them how they are, and greet them with a smile when you meet. Your efforts will be rewarded – at least from your spouse.
6, Sometimes it is just better if you listen without giving advice
Sometimes, you or your partner just need to spill out all the frustrations of the day. Since your husband loves you and wants you to feel better, he might give suggestions that can produce the opposite effect intended. Let him know when you just want to be heard, all you need is to have a good venting after a long frustrating day, and there is no need to fix the situation right away.
Touch your husband’s arm or hand while sipping on your morning coffee. Place your hand on his cheek when he kisses you good night. These small displays of affection will stay with him throughout the day.
The physical contact produces „happy hormone” oxytocin, and even non-sexual physical contact keeps you feeling adored by each other. It is no surprise that longtime married couples whose relationships have grown stale never touch each other anymore.
8, Improve yourself
Make sure you tend to your hobbies, friends or interests that separate you from your significant other. If you want to remain interesting for your partner, continue to learn new things and grow so that you have new topics to talk about. Your partner will fall in love with you again and again.