It is said that seeking bashert is a daunting task, but one that once you find it, it is the best gift life has to give. How do you know when you have found it?

First of all, what does it mean?

The Hebrew word bashert literally means soulmate. It means so much more than that. Symbolically it means it is the person who is truly the only one in the entire world that is a full complement to you with all of your strengths and weaknesses. It is your destiny to find them and put yourself in complete balance.

A Bashert can include:

• A husband or wife relationship.
• A true soulmate.
• Someone that will complement you in a perfect way.
• A predestined spouse, friendship, or other relationship.
• Connection and love bond.

How do you find Bashert?

The best part about this journey is that bashert is not something you can seek, it is found as you travel on your own journey being fully open to them when you find them. You may have to go through many relationships to find them.  They may not arrive as a love partner. They may start as a friend but as you both mature and change, their true role in your life will appear.

Will it last forever?

Since Bashert is your ultimate mate, they are part of your ultimate goal, and they will be part of the full completion of your life journey.  Once you have found them, you will work together to make your worlds complete.

Your Bashert will be your destiny and will be there to help you to have strong relationships. They will be a match between you and them and it will be a match that was given to you by the universe.

Do you have to find them later in life?

Not necessarily, but if you find them at young age will you be emotionally and spiritually maturing enough to recognize them?  If you do not, will you be able to go back to find them?  If they are truly the one for you, you will have the strength and temerity to seek them out.  Your bashert is part of your journey they are not the destination. They are truly a gift from fate.

Ever single  couple has different quirks and other things that make their relationship unique. Thus, there is no specific formula or set of rules to make a romance run smoothly.  But it seems that some couples have some secret that makes their relationship better.

Here is a list of a things that help keep the partnership strong:

1. Remember that you are partners

While it is important that you keep your individuality and independence in your relationship, it is just as important to remember that you are couple and you are a team. You should work together and be each others’ shelter from the storm.

2. “I love you” should mean something

If you have been with your partner for a few years, you may have slipped into the kind of slump where you respond automatically when your partner says, “I love you.” Stay mindful of what your are really saying. make sure that you put as much emphasis in to the everyday I love you as you did in the very first one. Don’t run the risk of taking your love for granted. You earned this love. Cherish it so you can keep it.

3. Don’t let the magic of intimacy go by the wayside. Being intimate with your partner has several benefits. It can reduce your stress while raising your self esteem. It is also a great way to connect to your partner. It gives you a chance to bond on every level. Schedule a date night for special time with your partner.

4. Don’t bring your old baggage into your current relationship.

It is only natural that each of you has a past. Don’t drag in your old behaviors into this new relationship.  Think about what went wrong in you past and leave that type of thing where it belongs, in the past. You are now a different person and are in a different relationship.

5. Stay compassionate

When we are in the first days  of a romance, we are very understanding and forgiving. We celebrate the differences between us.  But once you have been together for awhile, these difference can become irritating.   This is only natural, but how can you avoid conflict.  Stay compassionate.  Think of how you are resounding and have a bit of empathy. You probably have a few things that annoy your partner.  Celebrate your differences. The combination of empathy and respect can help your relationship last a long time.

Have you ever felt as though your relationship is slowly simmering down and possibly drifting apart? Well… maybe it’s time to give it the right action to become a stronger, happier, and healthier one. All relationships have their ups and downs, and many couples go through turmoil at one point or another, whether it is directly about their relationship, or an outside factor. If you want to make your relationship last there are some sure-fire ways you can build a stronger relationship that will last for years to come.

Communication is Key

A large portion of couples forget that they need to communicate to make it through obstacles and daily events. If you don’t communicate with your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, your relationship is guaranteed to eventually die out. A healthy relationship cannot blossom or form bonds without healthy communication. Make time to sit down and share your thoughts, concerns, hopes, and dreams.

Make Time for Each Other

So many couples get all caught up with the day-to-day hustle and bustle of life that they forget each other’s needs. They forget to talk, touch and share experiences. A strong and healthy relationship can last if there is time put aside for one another. Even if you work endless hours, there’s always a way you can find time. Meet for a lunch break during the day, take a half hour break to sit in the grass and talk, or just go for a stroll alone after dinner with the kids. There’s always time to be made.

Put in Your Best Efforts

A relationship can last if both parties put in the work and make sure they never stop putting in effort. If you truly want someone in your life you will do everything you can to keep them there. This, just like anything else you want in life, requires constant effort. Compliment your loved one and express your feelings when you feel them. Do something romantic every day of the week, or just show you care in some way or another. Little things like post-it ‘I love you’ notes on the bathroom mirror, a favorite home cooked meal or a gentle loving touch can do wonders.

Reach Out and Touch Your Loved One

It is very important for couples to constantly show love. Look at any long-lasting couple and you will see little gestures and caresses of love on a constant basis. Couples that have these solid efforts in place generally feel stronger and that they can make it through anything together. When you walk by your loved one touch their hand or back, give them a hug or cuddle before you go to bed at night or kiss them goodbye. These physical expressions from the heart offer couples the strength and security at all times, giving the relationship a chance to continuously blossom.

Talk it Out, Don’t Stay Angry

As they say, ‘never go to bed angry’. It does hold some truth to it. Sure, it’s ok to cool off and take some time out, but it is not ok to storm off and never return. Even if it’s a really bad argument, you can still mention to your loved one that you will return but will need time alone.

When you do cool down, talk it out in a mature manner. Don’t get caught up in drama and yelling as it doesn’t do anything for either of you except cause more pain. Get everything off your chest and don’t stuff it down. You both will feel better for it.

All of these tools and tips above are helpful and can give your relationship more minutes, hours, days, and years on the clock. The most important tool is communication because couples that constantly talk to each other and keep each other in the loop are stronger as a team. They know where they were in the past, they know where they are now in the relationship, and they know where they are headed for the future. They are a team.

Even though some may say, “Out of sight, out of mind” your partner may instead be a party to “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”  This is certainly vexing especially if your partner wants to be wanted by their ex.   Is your partner inviting his past relationship into your romance.  If they can’t seem to let go, think about these few things to see if your relationship is worth nurturing.

A few months out.

Love can be addictive, kind of like enjoying potato chips straight out of the bag.  But at a certain point, your brain gets the signal that you are full.  So it is with love; as good as it feels, your brain can only shoulder the blame for so long.  If your beloved has been out of his last relationship for at least three months, the addiction part should be over.   This is a warning sign. Do not engage with someone who is freshly out of a relationship.  Don’t rush your potential partner. If you truly think there is something there, you can wait for your romance to bloom.

Pity Versus Yearning

Think for a minute about your partners motivations.  Does you lover feel bad about his ex, or is he hoping for another go at romance.  If you think this is a possibility, ask yourself about your own relationship. Are both of you equally invested? Does you partner worry about you as much as he does his ex. If you have any, Does your partner just feel bad for their ex, or are they possibly yearning for a second chance? The best way to answer this question is to ask yourself just how present your partner is within your current relationship. If you don’t think you come first with them, its possible that you should step away.

Is it too good to be true?

If your partner moves into your relationship too quickly; they immediately inundate you with love, gifts and romance, and the heat is immediate and constant, chances are they are using you as a replacement for their lost love. As exciting as the flood of romantic gestures can be, the heat may be too hot to last.

Facing the truth

Your partner may not see what is happening. They may not know or think tat their ex is trying to control them. It is also possible that they are denying their own feelings.  No matter what the motivation, if you are uncomfortable with it, talk to them.  Listen to their point of view, but make sure that they know how you feel.

It’s not you, it’s them.

First of all, if things aren’t going the way you want them to, look at what you are doing and what you are investing in the relationship.   It is human nature to blame ourselves. But, if you partner, can’t let go of their ex, you are not to blame.

It might not be true love.

If your partner is pining and missing their ex to the point that it as effecting your happiness, your love may not be in the cards.   Ask yourself and trust your instincts.  Is this relationship fulfilling you?  You deserve a full and happy love.

If you have further questions about your current or future romance, consult a love psychic.

Do you need more zip in the bedroom? No? Well… sometimes it’s easier to fall into a sexual rut. A busy life can take its toll in the bedroom… things like work, family, and just everyday life. You feel you don’t have the time, or energy, for a healthy sex life.

Here are some great tips that can help you to keep the love alive in the bedroom and help your romance to be on fire!

• You are what you eat! Many foods are aphrodisiacs — used for centuries to arouse sexuality. Add these unique ingredients to your diet and soon your relationship will be heating up! Need more excitement in the bedroom? Start with a spicy meal! Several foods will make you hot and horny — ready for a night of romance.
• Try chili powder. The active ingredient in chilies—called capsaicin—releases endorphins, raises heart rate and stimulates nerve endings; all are perfect to set the right mood.
• Spicy foods not your thing? No problem—almonds are another food that provides a little zing to your love life. The Vitamin E content in almonds is famous for boosting the libido. The same holds true for the juice of goji berries, an ancient Asian sex tonic.
• No discussion of luscious foods would be complete without oysters. Studies have shown that oysters as an aphrodisiac is more than a myth—the high zinc content boosts progesterone levels in men, positively affecting the libido.

You got the look!

Setting the mood for love is more than just candles and spicy foods. To play the part, you have to look the part. Sexy clothes—like lingerie, stockings, and high heels—can put both you and your partner in the right frame of mind. Start your romantic evening with a trip to the adults-only store. Make it part of your date!

Love is in the air

And the stars! Ever since man has looked upward to the night sky, the cosmos have been part of our romantic—and sexual—history. Why do you think that is? It’s easy! The moon and stars have always had a significant impact on our passions, even more than earthly hearts and minds.

PsychicOz believes “the only way to know true love is to look to the heavens. It’s all there!” Sign up for a Free Horoscope and find out daily what your sign says about your love and sex life.

Replace love spells with psychic love readings

For a healthy love life, don’t overlook the power of the psychic universe! If you have lost some of your enthusiasm, meet with your trusted spiritual advisor. As an expert—and a friend—they can show you how to use the flow of psychic energy in your sex life.

If something in the universe is holding you back, your psychic can assist you. They will help you break free so  that you and your partner can go back to an exciting sexuality!

You might feel that you’re in cloud 9.  Heaven on earth as what they say… Yes, A new relationship full of passion and excitement can be enthralling and it’s easy to get swept away in the spell when things are moving fast. Sometimes, though, manipulative people use love bombing as a way to lure someone into a less-than-ideal relationship. So. Beware.

What Is Love Bombing?

Sure, it feels great when you’re showered with love, especially at the start of an exciting and promising new relationship. We all like getting attention from someone we’re interested in, and it’s only human to want to feel wanted. However, some people take normal passion in a relationship a step too far. That’s where love bombing comes into play.

Love bombing is a method of seduction popular among narcissists and even sociopaths. It happens when a manipulative person attempts to control a relationship from the very start. That person wants you to think he or she is brimming with love. In reality, he or she is employing a manipulative tool.

Signs of Love Bombing and Why it Works

If you’re receiving excessive texts, phone calls, and emails, and the person you’re in a relationship with expresses (and pushes) a constant desire to be in close contact with you, you might be experiencing love bombing. Someone who uses this tactic seems to want to be connected nearly every moment of the day.

This bombardment of acts that seem like love can be incredibly overwhelming, and that’s deliberate. If the target of love bombing doesn’t realize he or she is actually experiencing manipulative actions, it’s very easy to get swept off your feet.

Love bombing can cause infatuation, and it doesn’t even have to happen at the start of a relationship. The tactic doesn’t allow you to think straight or about whether the bomber is acting genuinely because everything moves so fast. A chat with a psychic online can give you the space to assess if your attraction stems from genuine passion or if you’re the target of something more manipulative.

Set Limits

People who rely on love bombing to lure their targets often set their sights on vulnerable people. Fortunately, you can use some tactics to combat love bombing.

If you suspect someone is love bombing you, set and then stick to some limits. Don’t text or talk on the phone for more than 10 minutes at a time. Only go on one date a week. Love bombers thrive on building a false sense of closeness and making things move too fast. If a love bomber can’t keep you under constant control, his or her tactics won’t work.

Date in Groups

Manipulative people also flourish in privacy. If you keep your early dating to going out in groups with friends, other people will have the chance to assess the situation and get to know the person you’re interested in. They’ll have a much easier time sensing if something’s wrong since they’re more removed from the situation. A telephone psychic can also help alert you to warning signs.

Learning the signals of manipulation can help you spot a love bomber before you fall deep into a bad relationship.

Can you survive having a long-distance relationship? Should you let yourself fall for someone who will eventually go far away? Yes, it finally happened, and you’ve met the love of your life… Yes, you’ve never been happier… until you face the challenge of separation.

Whether it’s a military deployment or relocation for a new job or to help a family member, this separation puts your relationship to the test. This challenge is where you have to decide between saying goodbye now or standing up to the challenges of a long-distance relationship.

Don’t be afraid to try something new and bet on love, especially if you are happy in the relationship and want to see where it will go. When determination, loyalty and trust fuel true love, a long-distance relationship can make your relationship stronger than ever.

Your answers to the following questions will help you decide if you are ready to face the challenges posed by a long-distance romantic relationship.

Is there trust?

While the basis of every romantic relationship is trust, a long-distance relationship takes that to the next level. In order for this to work, you have to trust your partner and be trustworthy in return.

One of the most critical ways to show trust is to be trustworthy. Be transparent about your plans and the people you are meeting. Don’t try to hide inconsequential meetings with coworkers or events with friends. The more you keep to yourself, the more your partner will wonder what you’re hiding.

At the same time, give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Don’t give into jealous tendencies. If you start to feel the wild call of the green-eyed monster, bring up your concerns before they become accusations.

What are your expectations?

Are the two of you on the same page regarding your expectations for the relationship? Before separating, try to come to some agreement regarding how often you expect to communicate and what methods you are going to use. Do you want to text throughout the day and connect via FaceTime or Skype every evening?

The details of your arrangement aren’t as important as the fact that you and your partner are on the same page with how often you’ll be in touch. This conversation is your chance to discuss plans for in-person visits and how you can afford it and how often it will happen.

What Is Your Vision of the Future?

Not only do you have to be on the same page regarding trust and communication, but do you share a common vision of the future? If the separation is not for a defined amount of time, where do you see it going? Are you working towards a future where you can be together, or are you content loving one another at a distance?

If and when you embark on a long-distance relationship, you will encounter much skepticism and negativity from your friends and family. Don’t let that deter you and stay positive and buoyed by your love. It will take work, and it will take effort, but nothing in life is worth having if you won’t fight for it.

Have you ever been lucky enough to have experienced meeting your twin flame, or what is often times referred to as your soul mate? This experience is not only an extremely powerful one but can at times be challenging and heart-wrenching. But one thing is for sure, the experience is most definitely a transformative one.

A twin flame partnership is one in which the couple has beaten tremendous odds through their incarnating together to finally be reunited on the same plane. And after finally being reunited permanently in the current plane of time, the twin flame process can seem difficult and strange, yet remarkable and awakening. If you’ve been wrestling with how to move forward within your twin flame relationship, or your twin flame reunion appears to have been put on hold indefinitely, here are some points to help explain the reasonings behind what you’ve been experiencing.

Shift #1 of the Twin Flame Reunion:

In the first shift of the twin flame reunion, the energetic self is feeling fulfilled, complete, and matched. It feels like you’re whole again…like your soul is no longer adrift or feeling as though a piece is missing. While this is most definitely a good thing, it can also mean that other relationships, connections, and interactions can go ignored or feel flawed, strained, or unwanted.

This means that you must not only work on solidifying your twin flame relationship, but also stay awakened to everything else that is going on around you. Don’t hesitate to embrace possibilities, hope, change, and joy in the world around you in all aspects of your life.

Shift #2 of the Twin Flame Reunion:

The second shift in your twin flame relationship is realizing that your twin flame has become your life purpose. The challenge here is that time and attention needed to nurture and maintain that twin flame partnership will most likely come at the expense of other previously important endeavors, priorities, and relationships. This means that while your twin flame relationship is thriving, your finances, family ties, career, and health may suffer.

So how does one remedy this challenge? Well, it’s important to remember that many twin flame relationships aren’t reunited on this plane because the energies of one or both partners might be needed elsewhere for the larger picture. However, it’s always best to trust that you’re being guided with the highest good of the relationship and for others around you. Embrace whatever purpose is being shown to you and things will work themselves out when it’s all said and done.

Shift #3 of the Twin Flame Reunion:

In the third shift of the twin flame reunion, your emotions, health, and intimacy may feel differently or will be expressed differently than before you met. And sometimes, since you’ll be feeling everything jointly, it will be hard to determine if what you’re feeling is yours, your partner’s, or something you’re both feeling together.

A good way to deal with this new way of feeling is to think of you and your partner as two sides of one body…one is the right side while the other is the left side. Both sides need to function independently but are still connected and therefore work together as the greater whole. Twin flames can also learn to tap into one another in order to boost feelings and emotions as well as mental and physical health.

Shift #4 of the Twin Flame Reunion:

In the fourth shift of the twin flame reunion, you’ll learn how to cultivate understanding, patience, and love for that of which is opposite of your individual goals, desires, qualities, and quirks. This is because twin flames complement each other in order to make a whole.

Your preferences and attributes may often be the complete opposite of your partners, which can prove to be a bit tricky to understand and absorb in the beginning. However, in finding common ground, you can learn from each other and embrace things you never thought possible before.

A twin flame relationship can often feel like a Ying and yang type of situation. But in cultivating each other’s quirks, desires, needs, and personalities, you’ll find that you can have harmony in the chaos which in turn will become the whole of yourselves as twin flames.

Regardless of whether or not twin flames meet on this plane or the next, it will inevitably be an experience full of awakening, strengthening, and inspiration for both persons involved. How you choose to apply these experiences is up to you, but once you are awakened to the twin flame connection, you and your partner will definitely never be the same!

It’s difficult to open yourself up to love again after being in an abusive relationship. You want to trust and love again but worry that you’ll fall for another abusing, controlling type of person.

Being in a toxic relationship can leave you with lasting emotional scars and you’ve probably been thinking of why you stayed with your ex for as long as you did. That sort of self-reflection is a healthy thing. When you understand the issues that led you to stay with an abusive partner, you feel more confident in breaking the pattern. Below are some shared tips on how to approach a relationship if you’ve been scarred by an abusive partner.

Acknowledge your mistakes

You have to be honest with yourself that you have made a mistake by staying with this abusive guy for so long and it was your mistake from the beginning to accept this situation and keep forgiving the abuser and giving him justifications.

Make a list of behaviors you won’t tolerate in your next relationship

Grab a pen and paper and write down a list of abusive behaviors that you will never tolerate again. When the relationship starts to get serious, share your list with your new partner. He has to understand the boundaries and accept them.

Take time for yourself and your recovery

It’s a big mistake to start a new relationship right after an abusive one. You need to take your time first to heal and recover from the abusive relationship. You need to gain back your self-esteem and respect. You need to love yourself again and love life. Get in touch with what you really want in life. Go and meet new friends, start a new hobby, take a yoga class, read your favorite books. Do things you love and focus on your own happiness.

Take care of yourself

It’s time to take care of yourself again! Exercise regularly and get up early in the morning and have a daily walk with the dog around the block. Here are some other things to do to take care of yourself:

• Get enough DEEP sleep. The deeper sleep you get, the happier you are. Deep sleep restores your energy, repairs your body, and improves your concentration.
• Eat healthy food such as fruit and vegetables. A healthy diet will help you restore your vitality and energy.
• Go to the spa and get massage regularly. Massage will help you get calm and relaxation you need.
• Get a new haircut and color. Buy new clothes and change your style.

Build your social support network

Find a group of people who share your interests and spend time with them. Take time to get to know them well. Hang out and have a coffee together or invite them over for pizza. Turn some of these people into friends and then spend more time together.

Keep a circle of positive people around you. They will be there for you when you seek support. They will also help you recover faster from the negative effects of abuse.

Believe it’s possible to love and trust again

Don’t let the negative experience you had with an abusive partner affects your trust in your new partner. Believe that you can start over and meet someone whom you can love and trust. Just learn how to love in a smarter and healthier way.

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