In the day-to-day, happiness doesn’t always look like radiating joy all the time. It doesn’t look like giddily texting each other all day, or greeting each other with tongue every time you reconnect. Even though that may still happen sometimes, long-term couples tend to measure happiness and healthiness a little bit differently. And while each couple is different, what all happy couples have in common are little things that have a big impact on their relationship.
Relationships ebb and flow, and there are times where things will be better than others. There will be hard times and bumps in the road, but there are things that partners can be sure to do that can add to the overall long-term happiness of their relationship. Here are some things that every happy couple does.
1. Fight less, kiss more
Because we do fight, even if it’s about silly things. Every time we start arguing, though, we should just stop and kiss instead! Let’s just skip the fights and do only the making up bit.
2. Eat a meal together every day
Whether it’s breakfast in bed, a quick sandwich lunch in between a workday or an order-pizza-in dinner, we should do this. Because detaching from all the crap that goes on in the world all day long and sharing food with the one you love – it’s just the best.
3. Text less, speak more
We keep in touch all day long on text. But no emoji is ever as expressive as the smile in someone’s voice. So instead of texting for half an hour, I’d rather just walk away from what I am doing, dial, and just talk for five minutes.
4. Just go on those little trips
We plan long vacations – bucket list destinations that we’ve both wanted to visit forever. And then we end up pushing those back because of something or the other. Less planning and more action is what we really need. Let’s just drive out on Saturdays, or just hop on to a train, and see where we end up at.
5. Go out less, hang out more
It’s great to go out with, especially when we’re with friends. But then we sometimes forget to spend any “us time” together – just us. Let’s just stay in somedays, doing nothing in particular except hanging out with each other.
6. Find that “you and me” hobby
He likes playing cricket. I like dancing. And we both accompany each other to these things. But we need a thing that we both love – and love more because we do it with each other. Maybe painting, maybe karate…but it’s high time we found it!
7. Buy less stuff, make more memories
We buy each other presents all the time. Sometimes they’re for birthdays and the other big occasions, sometimes just random things. But what we ignore sometimes is that a gift is about more than an object – it’s about the act of giving, and the love behind it. What we need to be gifting each other are experiences – shared smiles, shared happiness.