As a psychic advisor, I am receiving a lot of calls about love and relationships. The truth is that we all want to be loved. We all want to have love in our lives and yet at times we treat love as though it’s a lottery ticket. We’re just waiting to see the winning numbers, when instead we should just walk with love. We treat love as though it’s something to possess or something that proves to us that we are worthy.
And yet, we are all worthy of love, aren’t we?
Sometimes we lose the experience of being in relationship because we are so busy looking to get somewhere in a relationship—that promise, that ring, that wedding day, that shared dwelling place. There is never a guarantee. Yet there are some things we can do in order to make the most of the romantic relationships we’re in. Here are my top five suggestions:
1. Rather than worry about what they might do tomorrow, be present with them today.
It is easy to get caught up in worry when we are attached to someone—worry that they will leave, worried that we will make a mistake, worried that this might not be “the one.” Instead of worrying about the future, be present, enjoy the moment and take it all in. Why forgo the happiness you could have today by worrying about not having it to tomorrow?
You could be controlling your partner in many ways. Do you tell them who they can socialize with and how often as a means of trying to guarantee their loyalty and fidelity? Do you try to control what they eat, how they dress and how they spend their money? If you love them, let them be themselves. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than someone trying to control the relationship and their partner. You can’t prevent deception with control. If they are going to deceive you, they will find a way, no matter how much control you think you have.
3. Stop taking turns
Stop playing the “whose turn is it” game. If you’re keeping track of how many times you did the dishes or how many times they took out the garbage, you’re missing the point of a relationship. Relationships aren’t always 50/50. That means you both won’t be putting an equal amount of effort into it all the time. But, that’s okay. It’s about taking care of each other, not keeping score. If you lose some of that pride, you may improve your relationship!
Don’t read between the lines and look for insults where there are none. Listen to your partner’s words and ask for clarification when needed. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship that lacks communication and understanding.
5. Don’t put the failures of your last relationship onto this partner.
Don’t bring the woes of your last relationship into this relationship and don’t compare your current partner to your last partner. Every person deserves a fair chance. If you’re waiting for this partner to make the same mistakes as your last partner, or repeat the same patterns, you are potentially damaging your relationship. Think of it as a pair of old glasses. If your old glasses cause you to draw comparisons between your current partner and your old partner, put on a new pair of glasses! If you can’t help but make comparisons, you should consider resolving the issues from your previous relationships before trying again with someone new.
Many people call psychics because they want to know what the future holds for them. But nothing is static and nothing is etched in blood in the universal fabric, so I suggest you call a psychic and ask about improving your present. This article is just a sample of some of the advice I offer my callers. If you want to learn more about yourself and how you can love better, call me.