Relationships are sometimes about love but sometimes they are just about sex. You might have started your relationship about sex and then the feelings can change. A relationships has to have different things in it for it to survive and even if you are enjoying your partner, if you or them decides there needs to be more, the relationship can either grow or die.
There are ways that you can change your relationship from just the bedroom to a real relationship. You can find that the physical pleasure that you have might turn to something more than just sex and affection to something more intimate.
Knowing It’s All About Sex
When you are tired of it just being about sex, here are some things that you can know about your relationship. If you are in this kind of relationship, then you are just there for the sex and your partner wants nothing more.
- He Has a Wife
When a married man calls you and you are going over to have sex with him, he only wants sex. He will never want to marry you.
- Open Relationships
Men that want open relationships aren’t looking for something serious. They want to be with someone that is fun and likes to play but not one that wants something more.
- Timetable
Having sex with someone and giving them all of your passion is a sign that you are either attracted to sex or you want to be in a relationship. If you are with someone that keeps pushing the dates back after they say they will get serious after a stage in their life. If a guy tells you he will get serious after college and then he doesn’t, chances are he doesn’t want to be serious.
- They Don’t Offer Much
Some men will only have sex to offer you. They don’t want a future, they don’t want to date you, they just want to have sex. You have to decide if that is what you want.
Changing Your Relationship from The Bedroom to Something More
There are things that you will face when you’re in a relationship that is just about sex. This can be challenging. Instead of fighting about this, there are some things that you can do to see if you can change your relationship from just sex to something more. Here is how:
- Stop Having Sex
If all he wants from you is to have sex, then you need to tell him that you don’t want to have sex for a while. He can sit with you, talk to you and be with you but he cannot touch you.
- Stop Being a Booty Call
Stop allowing your get together to be just about sex. Instead of sleeping with him, when he calls to see if you can come over, tell him you are busy. If you choose to go over, make sure that you are prepared to do something other than sex. If he wants to get close, talk about the weather or ask to watch a movie.
- Meet Him Out
Instead of going to his house or him coming over, meet him out in public. This is away that you can be with him for the day without giving into sex. Take time to go out and allow him to hold your hand or to talk to you but if he wants to be intimate, refuse.
- Give Him a Choice
Give him a choice to be with you in a relationship or to find someone else to sleep with. Stop giving him sex if this isn’t what you want. If you want to be with him deeper, you have to stand your ground and you have to make a choice for him to decide what he really wants. If he only wants sex, move on.
- Date Other People
Find other men to date if he isn’t going to want to commit to you deeper. Instead of just going over to his house to have sex, go on a date with someone else. He will either see that he wants you or he will let you go.
- Work On You
Don’t be someone that just gives in to booty calls if this isn’t what you want. You need to work on respecting yourself more and work on finding things to do other than sleeping with him. Imagine what your life would be like if you were out enjoying other people that want to be around you. Find a hobby that you like to do and work hard at making that work. You will find a man that wants you for more than just sex.