As a psychic advisor, I am receiving a lot of calls about love and relationships. The truth is that we all want to be loved. We all want to have love in our lives and yet at times we treat love as though it’s a lottery ticket. We’re just waiting to see the winning numbers, when instead we should just walk with love. We treat love as though it’s something to possess or something that proves to us that we are worthy. And yet, we are all worthy of love, aren’t we?
Sometimes we lose the experience of being in relationship because we are so busy looking to get somewhere in a relationship—that promise or that ring, that wedding day, that shared dwelling place. There is never a guarantee. Yet there are some things we can do in order to make the most of the romantic relationships we’re in.
Here are my top five suggestions:
- Rather than worry about what they might do tomorrow, be present with them today.
It is easy to get caught up in worry when we are attached to someone—worry that they will leave, worried that we will make a mistake, worried that this might not be “the one.” Instead of worrying about the future, be present, enjoy the moment and take it all in. Why forgo the happiness you could have today by worrying about not having it to tomorrow?
- Stop trying to control their behavior, thinking it will guarantee the outcome you desire.
You could be controlling your partner in many ways. Do you tell them who they can socialize with and how often as a means of trying to guarantee their loyalty and fidelity? Do you try to control what they eat, how they dress and how they spend their money? If you love them, let them be themselves. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than someone trying to control the relationship and their partner. You can’t prevent deception with control. If they are going to deceive you, they will find a way, no matter how much control you think you have.
- Stop taking turns
Stop playing the “whose turn is it” game. If you’re keeping track of how many times you did the dishes or how many times, they took out the garbage, you’re missing the point of a relationship. Relationships aren’t always 50/50. That means you both won’t be putting an equal amount of effort into it all the time. But that’s okay. It’s about taking care of each other, not keeping score. If you lose some of that pride, you may improve your relationship!
- Stop editing your partner’s words to fit your own story.
Don’t read between the lines and look for insults where there are none. Listen to your partner’s words and ask for clarification when needed. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship that lacks communication and understanding.
- Don’t put the failures of your last relationship onto this partner.
Don’t bring the woes of your last relationship into this relationship and don’t compare your current partner to your last partner. Every person deserves a fair chance. If you’re waiting for this partner to make the same mistakes as your last partner, or repeat the same patterns, you are potentially damaging your relationship.
Think of it as a pair of old glasses. If your old glasses cause you to draw comparisons between your current partner and your old partner, put on a new pair of glasses! If you can’t help but make comparisons, you should consider resolving the issues from your previous relationships before trying again with someone new.
Many people call psychics because they want to know what the future holds for them. But nothing is static, and nothing is etched in blood in the universal fabric, so I suggest you call a psychic and ask about improving your present situation, first.
This article is just a sample of some of the advice I offer my callers. If you want to learn more about yourself and how you can love better, call me.
The emphasis on being present in a relationship is well-noted. Many people often forget to appreciate the moment because they are too concerned about the future. It’s an insightful reminder.
I found this article quite enlightening! The advice about ceasing control and being present resonates deeply. True wisdom often lies in the simple truths we overlook in the chaos of daily life.
This piece offers some rather pedestrian insights into relationships. However, I must concede, the suggestion to focus on the present rather than fretting about the future is rather sagacious. Even a broken clock, as they say.
What a profound and enlightening read! The analogy of treating love as a lottery ticket is both accurate and thought-provoking. Each suggestion is a gem, particularly the idea of letting go of the past and not allowing previous relationship failures to taint our current experiences. This perspective is crucial for fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
This article is a breath of fresh air. The emphasis on being present and enjoying the moment resonates deeply with me. The advice to stop trying to control one’s partner is not only liberating but allows for the organic growth of the relationship. The wisdom here is timeless and incredibly valuable.
This article reminds me of the countless self-help books collecting dust on my shelf. Yet, its pragmatic approach to love and communication shouldn’t be underestimated. Even the most erudite individuals can benefit from revisiting the basics.
The idea of calling a psychic to improve the present situation rather than focusing on an uncertain future is interesting. It shifts the focus from passive waiting to active improvement, which is a positive approach.
The advice on controlling behavior is crucial. It’s a common issue where one partner tries to control the other, thinking it will lead to the desired outcome. Relationships thrive on mutual respect and freedom.
What a load of oversimplified nonsense. The relentless advice to ‘be present’ and ‘stop controlling’ is easier said than done. Relationships are complex, and such reductionist viewpoints do a disservice to the intricacies of human connections.
The suggestion to avoid projecting past relationship failures onto a current partner is sensible. Emotional baggage from previous relationships can indeed hinder the growth of new ones.
While the suggestions provided are somewhat useful, they lack depth and seem rather superficial. Addressing complex relationship dynamics necessitates more profound psychological insights.
I concur, Maryanne. The advice is rather elementary. Relationships are multifaceted and demanding nuanced understanding.
But sometimes simplicity is key. Overcomplicating relationship advice can render it inaccessible to the masses.
While I agree with some points, the notion that one should completely let go of any control is naïve. Relationships do require a balance, and while micromanagement is detrimental, some level of influence is necessary to keep things aligned. It’s not black and white as this article suggests.
I agree with the point on not keeping score in a relationship. It’s about cooperation and understanding rather than balancing a ledger of chores and responsibilities. This perspective can help sustain long-term harmony.
Ah, the classic case of a psychic advisor doling out relationship advice. Because if anyone’s going to guide my love life, it’s someone who predicts the future with tarot cards. Next, maybe we should consult astrologers for our investment portfolios, right?
Fascinating perspectives! The idea of treating love not as a possession but as an experience to be savored is profound. The suggestions offered are indeed reflective of a thoughtful, introspective approach to maintaining romantic relationships.
Oh great, another psychic dispensing love advice. What’s next? Astrological tips for picking lottery numbers? The irony is palpable.
This article is enlightening and resonates deeply with the fundamental truths about love and relationships. I appreciate the practical advice and the emphasis on being present. Truly, love is not a game of chance but a beautiful journey we should cherish.