Those who find themselves alone again sometimes get stuck. They are relieved to be out of a bad relationship, but find it difficult to move on. It is scary to open up your heart again after such tremendous hurt or betrayal, but it can be done if you apply the right strategies.
Carolyn Harrington, a founder of Maty’s Healthy Products, as well as being a holistic health practitioner, energy healer, and medical intuitive, said there are simple steps you can take to bring new love into your life.
Forgive
Forgiving those that hurt you is vitally important to a healthy future relationship. It’s also important for your well being. Relationship experts state forgiveness does more to help you than the other person. Harrington said it helps you get to break down emotional blocks that keep you from real love.
Besides forgiving your ex, you must also forgive yourself for any role you played in the break-up. This is sometimes hard to do because we, being human, want to analyze what we could have, should have done. That does no good and isn’t something you can change, so you should just forgive and let it go.
A key to this is to stop blaming yourself for failed relationships. Relationships take two people and breakups also involve two people. It isn’t fair for you to place all the blame on yourself. Along with that, stop blaming yourself for things you did that were wrong in the past relationship. It is important to accept responsibility and apologize for any hurt you’ve caused, but then it is time to forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes.
Giving Up the Past
One thing forgiveness does is help you let go of the past. Harrington said harboring angry feelings cripples you more than it hurts them. The other person may move on quickly and won’t even be aware of your hostile feelings. Yet, they become a burden for you to carry and weigh you down. They prevent you from finding new love or excitement in your life. Harboring negative feelings only builds a wall around your heart to protect yourself. That may prevent hurt from overtaking you, but it also prevents love from flowing.
There is another reason to release negative emotions. Bad energy makes you tired and could leave you with depression. This lowers your health and well being. Harrington said negative emotions drag your system down. The key thing is to shift your thoughts.
Shifting Thoughts to Love
Harrington said thoughts have a huge impact on reality, so they should be carefully considered. There is a lot of talk about vibrational frequencies of positive and negative thoughts, but it can be viewed in much more practical ways.
Those who are happy and optimistic tend to attract other happy, optimistic people. Those who are negative tend to attract other negative people. Negative people don’t make for good relationships. Shifting your thoughts to a more positive tone will improve your outlook and that will show on your face, in your tone, and your actions. That will attract others to you.
Love Yourself
There is nothing wrong with self-care. You can’t love someone else until you learn to love yourself. Harrington said learning to love yourself attractions more loving situations to you. It is similar to the law of attraction. Those who focus on something tend to attract it into their lives. So, focusing on loving yourself will not only make you happier but will attract others to love you too.
Plus, you will be more content and happy. The good vibes you are sending out will be a signal that you are ready for real love.
Learning and practicing these will lead to a more fulfilling life with lots of opportunities for love, so make a plan to create your love life now.
An exceptional read! Carolyn Harrington’s holistic approach to fostering new love through forgiveness and self-love is both thoughtful and inspiring. Her advice on releasing negative emotions to improve overall health is spot-on; it’s incredible how our thoughts can shape our reality. This article serves as a beacon of hope for anyone feeling stuck after a painful breakup. It underscores that by loving ourselves first, we open the door to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Truly motivating!
This article is profoundly enlightening. As someone who has faced the challenges of moving on from a tumultuous relationship, I deeply resonate with Carolyn Harrington’s insights. The emphasis on self-forgiveness and the necessity of shifting negative thoughts to positive ones are truly transformative strategies. It is a reminder that emotional well-being begins with self-care and self-love. Kudos for shedding light on such essential and often overlooked aspects of healing!
While the article touches on some valid points, it oversimplifies the complexities of human emotions and relationships. The notion that you can merely ‘shift your thoughts’ to attract love seems rather reductionist. Emotional healing requires more than just thought realignment.
True, Willie. Healing is nuanced. While the article offers some good starting points, it almost diminishes the hard work and time required for genuine emotional repair. A bit too optimistic, if you ask me.
I concur with your assessment. The article doesn’t account for the deeply ingrained psychological scars that many people carry. Real emotional healing often necessitates professional help beyond just ‘thinking happy thoughts.’
While the advice given here may appear insightful, it teeters on oversimplification. Emotional healing is a complex process and suggesting that merely ‘forgiving’ and ‘shifting thoughts’ can resolve deep-seated issues overlooks the nuances of human psychology. A more rounded approach, integrating professional therapy, might be more beneficial.
Finally, some practical advice for those struggling with past relationship traumas! Carolyn Harrington’s holistic approach of forgiveness and self-love is exactly what many need to hear. It’s refreshing to see such a comprehensive method to healing emotionally and mentally.
I found this article to be highly insightful and uplifting. The emphasis on self-forgiveness and shifting one’s thoughts to positivity is powerful advice. The journey to emotional healing is never a straight path, but Carolyn Harrington provides a practical roadmap for those seeking to mend their broken hearts.
Carolyn Harrington makes some very valid points. Forgiveness is indeed a crucial step in emotional healing. Psychological research supports that forgiving oneself and others can lead to significant improvements in mental health. This article provides a good starting point for anyone looking to embark on that journey.
This article reeks of pseudo-scientific babble. Forgiveness and shifting thoughts to ‘vibrational frequencies’? Seriously? This kind of advice might leave someone more confused rather than helping them move on. Not everyone believes in this ‘energy healer’ nonsense.
Oh great, another article telling me to ‘love myself’ and everything will be magically fixed. If only it were that simple, right? Maybe next time they’ll suggest yoga and essential oils as the answer to all life’s problems. Classic.
The article highlights some essential points about self-care and the importance of positive thinking. The link between our thoughts and reality is profound and requires deeper contemplation.
Oh great, another ‘forgive and forget’ manifesto. This reads like a self-help pamphlet from the 90s. Because obviously, all of life’s complexities can be resolved with a sprinkle of self-love and a dash of positive thinking. Give me a break.
This article had me chuckling. ‘Shift your thoughts to love?’ If only it were that simple! Next time I can’t bench press my usual, I’ll just think positive thoughts and watch the weights lift themselves. Seriously though, it does have some good points for those who are looking to take that first step toward emotional healing.
The notion of stopping self-blame in relationships is crucial. Relationships are inherently complex and it’s rarely a single person’s fault.
Ironically, it seems that forgiving oneself is far more challenging than forgiving others. I guess self-compassion isn’t quite in vogue these days. This article provides a rather poetic blueprint to emotional freedom, but let’s be honest, it’s easier said than done.
Carolyn Harrington’s insights into forgiveness and letting go of the past are well-articulated. The emphasis on positive thoughts and self-love can indeed be transformative.
I agree, Biffle. The connection between vibrational frequencies and our emotional state is intriguing and worth exploring further.
It’s interesting how forgiving oneself can be just as important as forgiving others. This dual approach could lead to more effective healing.
The practical advice on shifting thoughts to love and maintaining an optimistic outlook is quite valuable. It’s something that can be implemented gradually for better results.
Yes, Francina. The concept of loving oneself as a precursor to attracting love from others is especially poignant. It reinforces the idea that internal change precedes external change.
Forgiveness as a mechanism to break down emotional blocks is a compelling idea. It aligns well with many psychological principles about emotional health.