Don’t Be Too Stressed for Sex

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Too Stressed for Sex

You know how it goes: It’s another evening, you both are home, but you’re tired. Your kids are never asleep. You feel uncomfortable in your body.  Work is stressing you out.  It’s an old story for anyone in a long-term relationship. There are so many reasons not to be intimate, especially when the pillow and the remote are so tempting and undemanding.

A healthy sex life is an important part of a relationship. Neglecting it and your partner can cause your relationship to falter and fray.  Here are a few tips:

Help out

Where does stress come from? Some think that it’s unfinished housework; things that have piled up and other to dos that have gone undone. Your partner may be more pliable if they have less to do before they can relax. Besides, making sure your partner has a bit of wiggle room is always romantic.

Warm it up

Research shows that you are more likely to achieve climax if your feet are warm. It is unknown what the correlation is, but the coziness is definitely key.  It may be that your feet are cold in times of stress. So warm up your feet and warm up the bedroom!

Perhaps a demonstration?

For some reason, it is hard for us to tell people what we want. This can be a problem when it comes to communicating wants and needs to a partner.   Don’t be afraid. If you are close enough to someone to be in the situation in the first place, you should be able to tell or at least show what you want.

Something new

Trying out something new in the bedroom will not only brighten the spark in your relationship it will also go a long way to reducing your stress. You don’t have to go to extremes, like taking a gymnastics class or involving hardware, just change the few things. Maybe select some toys together or watch a spicy movie.  Get a couple’s massage and let your instincts be your guide.

Intimacy is more than sex

Physical contact is just as intimate as sex.  Cuddle and hug more. Close contact releases a chemical called oxytocin that helps put you in the mood for love.

Final Thoughts

Though sex does not make a relationship good or bad, making sure that you are being intimate can really change your relationship for the good. It is important that you take time to be intimate both in and out of bed in order to make your bedroom a place of joy and peace. Try out the things on this list and you can have a happier, less stressful life.

13 COMMENTS

  1. The correlation between warm feet and achieving climax is interesting. It would be beneficial to see more studies on this topic to better understand the physiological mechanisms at play.

  2. I found this article both enlightening and remedial in the most practical sense. It’s a relief to see such actionable advice for common relationship challenges. The emphasis on physical intimacy beyond sex, like cuddling and hugging, is particularly noteworthy. It’s clear that fostering closeness is a multidimensional effort, and these suggestions are well-rounded and achievable even in our busy lives.

  3. This article touches on so many crucial aspects of maintaining a healthy relationship. The tips provided are not just about the act itself but focus on the underlying factors like stress and communication, which are often the real culprits. The suggestion to ‘warm it up’ was an amusing yet insightful reminder of how small things can make a big difference. It’s an excellent read for anyone looking to improve their intimacy in a holistic way.

    • Absolutely agree, Swiss Miss! The holistic approach is what makes these tips so applicable. It’s all about creating an environment of mutual support and understanding, which can truly transform the dynamics of a relationship. Kudos to the author for such a comprehensive guide!

  4. Honestly, this sounds like a lot of fluff. If my feet being warm was the key to a satisfying love life, I’d have solved world peace by now. Let’s get real; intimacy is more complicated than cozy socks.

  5. The suggestion to focus on non-sexual physical contact is valuable. Cuddling and hugging can foster a sense of closeness and emotional security, which is essential for a healthy relationship.

  6. Introducing new elements in the bedroom is a practical tip. Novel experiences can reinvigorate a relationship and keep the connection fresh and exciting.

  7. The emphasis on helping out with household chores as a means to reduce stress is quite insightful. It appears that sharing responsibilities can indirectly enhance intimacy by creating a more relaxed environment.

  8. If only solving relationship issues were as easy as putting on warm socks and watching a spicy movie. The article glosses over the deeper issues that many couples face. Communicating wants and needs is easier said than done.

  9. The advice on communicating wants and needs is crucial. Effective communication is indeed fundamental to any relationship, and it makes sense that this extends to the bedroom as well.

  10. It’s interesting how the article touches on oxytocin and its effects on intimacy. The physiological aspect of cuddling and physical closeness contributing to a better relationship is something worth noting. More people should be aware of this.

  11. Ah yes, because what every exhausted parent needs is to add ‘be more intimate’ to their never-ending to-do list. Maybe while we’re at it, we can solve global warming by cuddling all night. Genius!

  12. This article offers some practical advice for couples struggling with intimacy. The emphasis on helping out and reducing stress is particularly insightful. It’s refreshing to see a balanced approach to maintaining a healthy relationship.

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