So, you’ve finally met a guy who might be the one to get you over your ex. It’s been enough time since the break up and you’ve been through enough mediocre dates to where you feel like you are ready to let someone else into your life. But what if you are still in touch with your ex and there is that lingering thought in your head as to whether he might come back?
The truth is that you cannot change what your heart wants and it is near impossible to cut off feelings when you have had a genuine connection with someone. As a result, we sometimes keep these exes in our back pocket, holding hope that they will one day change and treat us the way we deserve.
Karma and Growth
The subconscious dynamics at work inside of us is the human explanation for why this keeps happening. But there is also a spiritual explanation for this repeat behavior—karma. More specifically, it is the lack of growth and release of karma.
We are on this plane to transcend our conditions. We are here to grow and transcend our limitations. This is a pretty confusing way of saying we are here to evolve into who we really are—spirits of the highest nature. Every experience we have is a gift of growth. We can see it as a challenge or as an opportunity. Relationships are a path of growth.
When we meet a karmic mate or are connected to someone, it is usually a challenging relationship. That’s why it’s karmic! It implies growth and it will challenge you in many areas. In moving through these relationships both partners are to grow and spur growth in the other. It is when we refuse to change that the relationship begins to enter a traumatic phase.
If you part with feelings of loss, anger, resentment and frustration, the karma is not fulfilled. You have not done your work. You have not grown. You can set your watch for the time the next person comes along with the exact same lesson for you. Until you can get on top of your negative feelings, it will happen again and again and again.
It’s not an easy journey, but you can get to a better place. Pray or meditate using this mantra:
Bless them for what they brought me.
Bless them for what they taught me.
When you arrive at this beautiful place of peace, you can release them without pain. At this point you have released your karma with them and can move on to a higher level of relationship. And, it will come to you.
Instead of asking, “Why do the same people keep showing up?” you may want to change the question to, “What do I need to learn in order for me to move on from this kind of relationship?”